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writes:My SO and I have been together for almost 3 years. When we saw each other in December, he was going to propose but we had some issues and ended up fighting most of the time. In other words, he didn't propose and said I was holding back from him which is kinda true although aided by something he did the first year of our relationship. Anyway, ever since then he has been acting like the world has ended and the relationship is doomed. I've apologised, promised to stop holding back and brought up various ways to work through our issues but every chance he gets, he throws it in my face reminding me of the things I did, I broke his heart cos he didn't get to propose when he wanted to, it's my fault where we're at, etc and I'm like ok, fair enough. I'm sorry, Can we forgive each other and move on now? This evening after he's gone off again via text, he sends me a message saying his heart is now guarded and he gave it all his heart and I held back so now he's leaving it to me but he's not going to wait long for me because it's been over 2 years already? I'm honestly befuddled. For the last month, I have been trying to fix things and all I get told is I did this, I complained about that, it's my fault. I have invested a lot emotionally in this relationship and it's not something I would want to give up on so easily but I am now getting a little tired of this hot and cold. One minute I'm the greatest thing in his life and he's everything he is cos of me. The next minute, I broke his heart. Is this worth expending any more energy on? Or I should just accept that he simply will not be able to move past this and I should move on with my life? I always thought when you love someone, you don't give up. You work at it to make it the best you can but now....
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo what do you suggest firstlovelastlove? should I give it a few more gos or just give up and move on? What would you do if you were in this situation?
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (1 March 2011):
 "he is 37. i didn't cheat on him nor did i physically hurt him. I have never treated him badly and I have always been true to him." Wow, I am thinking he may be emotionally immature."because he also didn't get to propose in December like he wanted to, he seems to believe that it is doomed" Does astrology play an overly important role in his life? If not, what is the big deal? Not exactly someone I'd call easy going."i told him today that I am offering all of me without any reservations because I believe in us and i want to give us a chance" What man does not want to hear that? That is just wonderful you said that to him."his response was that so I expect him to accept it and suck it up?" What exactly is he supposed to be accepting? "suck it up?" I'm sorry, more like be a man and quit your belly-achin'. Wow, I do not get this guy. You have more patience than any one I've ever known. That is for sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi firstlove lastlove, he is 37. i didn't cheat on him nor did i physically hurt him. I have never treated him badly and I have always been true to him. We have some communication issues and a tendency to talk over each other when we're having a fight. I realise this and I have told him several times that we should work on this. because he also didn't get to propose in December like he wanted to, he seems to believe that it is doomed and he has been acting distanced ever since. i told him today that I am offering all of me without any reservations because I believe in us and i want to give us a chance and his response was that so I expect him to accept it and suck it up????
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reader, firstlovelastlove +, writes (1 March 2011):
"I'm like ok, fair enough. I'm sorry, Can we forgive each other and move on now?" How old is he? Did you cheat or physically hurt him? I can't think of anything else the two of you shouldn't be able to "move on" from."I have invested a lot emotionally in this relationship and it's not something I would want to give up on so easily but I am now getting a little tired of this hot and cold." I don't blame you, I'd feel the same way."I always thought when you love someone, you don't give up. You work at it to make it the best you can" I concur.What's the big deal? Can you put some more information up here?
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