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writes:I am 17 and gay. I have been since I was 15, I have a boyfriend, I have slept with him but no-one knows about us yet. I want to come out but I am frightened to death about what my friends and family will think. Also I haven't a clue how to come out, and by that I mean that I don't know how I should come out and how should I tell people that I am gay? I have been fine with the secrecy up until now but I am just getting fed up with having to hide such a huge part of my life away from the world. I mean the boy I love is so amazing in every single aspect. I mean it is such a shame that I have to hide him away from my friends and family. What and how should I do it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): If you are scared then wait until you are older and out of school. There isn't any rush. My family or friends never found out I was gay until I was 20.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (7 October 2008):
http://www.wsmsh.org.uk/coming-out/index.html
This website gives pretty good advice.
Only you know your parents so whether it is a case of sitting your mum down first and then going to your dad separately, or whether you just announce it to both of them over dinner.
As for your friends, some of them will get weird and be arseholes about it, some will say "yeah, that's been pretty obvious." If they know your boyfriend then they might see the way you look at each other and how you sit together.
Dropping hints to check reactions is always a good way to test the water.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): unless your family understands and approves homosexuals i would suggest not to. It would be very awkward for you if they did not approve and very awkward for your mate and your family. If you want to tell people wait until you get out of the house or 18 would be a good idea then your parents wont be paranoid everytime a guy is with you.
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