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writes:Need some Help...My boyfriend just went away and I am feeling sad and depress. I am extremelly depress. I am crying at home, and even at work i got watery eyes.. Could it be major depression or is it that i miss my boyfriend. HELP PLEASe on what to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): use the time that you are apart to your advantage, maybe visit or hang out with friends more often, indulge in some personal pampering, when he comes back he will want to know what you've been up to, make it worth telling about.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 July 2007):
 Why did he go away? Is it for good?
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (7 July 2007):
 I have been in the same boat as you are, and you are just missing him in a big way. But you shouldn't let it consume your life, because it could interfer with your job.
I would suggest to you that on your day off you should go out with your girlfriend/s and have fun seeing a movie (I would suggest a comedy) or go to a club. Just don't sit around in your house or apartment by yourself, sad and depressed. It only worsens the situation!!
Good luck to you dear!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2007): You have to try and control the emotions, and not be dependent on him. Think he only left for a limited period and he'll be back. And while he's away I'm sure you can find a way to communicate from time to time? It's not that you simply miss him, it's sounds like addiction. Some boys may find this flattering, but others can see it as a flaw. This emotional dependence and fear to be left alone may hide things as - uncertainties, and your bf can be tired of constantly reassuring you he's by your side. This problem is life-controlling and instead of feeling the love you feel the fear and pain of imminently losing the other. Not to mention people you feel dependent on can speculate this and be manipulative, turn this into their favour. I think it's time to look at the past events, think logically about how stable the relationship is - and draw conclusions from there - sometimes there are no reasons to worry, but we are creating them in our minds. As a mature person you must get over this state and the feelings of insecurity that can turn you more demanding so as to exercise pressure upon your partner, which is a danger for the relationship. Also you shouldn't let this problem overwhelm you at work, you're letting personal problems interfer with your job and it's not healthy, how will you deal with the gossip if you make it so obvious. Try instead and think of what attracted him to you, and be proud of that. Find the certainty you seek in that. And think of a pleasant way to surprise him when he's back. Like a dinner at candlelights?
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