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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I am currently a freshmen at college and go out regularly in the party scene where I meet a lot of nice and attractive guys who seem to be very interested. I'm not afraid to give out my number to a guy after talking to them at more then a couple parties in fact guys have giving me their numbers begging me to text them. However the next day I never send out text or reply to the ones I have received. You see no matter how much I may like a specific man I am scared to do more then flirt with the help of alcohol since I am still a virgin. The parties I end up going to our mostly upper class men and I am embarrassed of my lack of experience. Even my female at friends at college all assume I am not a virgin in fact they never even asked and Im to embarrassed to correct them. I will admit I don't look like your "typical virgin" and certainly don't flirt like one. I am not trying to wait till marriage I'm just nervous that the more experienced guys will be turned off or feel like I put them in an awkward position if I tell them.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 December 2012):
 I miss the days of everyone assuming we were virgins until we knew for a fact otherwise.
WHY is the whole world concerned about everyone else's sex life.
OH yeah, they aren't. It's perception as far as I can tell.
you just are making friends.
if you have more than 3 dates with the same fellow it may come up but then you will be more comfortable.
If it comes up on an earlier date then he's not the boy for you... NEXT.
STOP feeling like you have a GIANT V on your forehead.
go out
have fun
live life
it will happen when the time is right.
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (7 December 2012):
 Youre clearly not comfortable with losing It to a guy you rarely know, so dont look for that kind of attention. Make friends, and as soon as you find yourself in a relationship, then you decide whether the time and the person are right. Dont do anything youre not comfortable with, no one is making you. And 18 year old virgins are more common than you might think. It might help to tell a closer friend the truth so that they Dont unknowingly say something that upsets you. Youll probably feel better to have told someone as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2012): You are totally wrong. I wonder why nobody has told you this before.
Here is the thing. Men and women are different. women might be turned off by an inexperienced sexual partner. But men are the opposite. It's almost every man's fantasy to have a virgin in bed and teach her what to do.
Even some experienced girls play dumb in bed, for the same reason.
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