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I am adopting a mixed race child, how do I style and manage afro hair? I don't want the agency to think I'm unfit.

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Question - (10 July 2014) 4 Answers - (Newest, 11 July 2014)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hello all I have no family or friends to turn to about this, so I was hoping some of you might be able to help me.

I'm a white woman from an entirely white family. I've been through the adoption process and had said that I didn't mind what skin colour my child would have as me and my family have never found it important. The agency have got back to me that there is a mixed race girl who is 2 years old and they think she'd do well in my family. I'm thrilled and my family are delighted! Now I'm nervous though because I'm not sure how to take care of and style Afro hair. I don't want to talk to the agency about it, in case they think I'd be unfit, so does anyone know websites that teach you how to do it? Please I'm desperate!!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (11 July 2014):

Honeypie agony auntSVC is correct. Afro is not a type of hair, it's a STYLE of hair.

I would wait till you met the baby and then consider looking for a good hairdresser who is black. And I don't say that to sound silly, but I have found that in the US, MOST black hairdressers can do European, Asian and African hair types and all the inbetween types, better than most white hairdressers.

Two of my good friends have children of mixed hereditary and one has straight hair and the other very very tight little curls. I know the mom of the second child ( the tight little curls) treat her scalp and hair with coconut oil, because her scalp and hair tends to dry out a lot. And she ONLY uses conditioner (no shampoo) for cleaning her hair (you can google co-wash - and that works for any hair type, I use it myself.)

If you want to learn how to braid her hair in some of the fantastically pretty ways I'd look on YouTube. Like SVC said google can help A LOT.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2014):

There are some youtube videos on styling afro hair. I have watched them myself and have learned a lot even though I don't have hair THAT curly.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (10 July 2014):

So_Very_Confused agony auntI doubt that an afro is the way to go (here that's a hairstyle from the 70s)

I googled Hair care for bi-racial babies

and there are tons of hits

this was the first one;

http://www.babycenter.com/400_how-to-care-for-a-biracial-babys-hair_2640630_374.bc

lots of moms with lots of suggestions.

the search results are:

https://www.google.com/search?q=hair+care+for+biracial+babies&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=com.yahoo:en-US:official&client=firefox&channel=sb

thank you for loving a child you did not birth.

this child will grow in your heart....

best wishes.

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States +, writes (10 July 2014):

TasteofIndia agony auntHi there,

It all depends on the hair. I'm biracial, but I have very soft, fine hair that has curls. So, a less PC version of describing my hair would be "white" hair with "black" curls.

She could have a coarser, oily hair, or maybe a dry, rough hair. Her hair might be straight, or wavy, or curly. She might have hair like mine, or she might have hair like yours. It really depends on her! I would recommend finding a good hair salon that specializes in all kinds of hair, and go get some recommendations for her hair type once she arrives.

Congratulations on adopting!

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