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writes:dear cupid. I have been in a relationship with my partner for 7 years, we have 2 children aged 5 and 2 years. The problem is that he is 42 and still lives at home with his mum, i currently live alone with my children, he looks after them a few hours a day whilst i work so we see him regular but i do still feel like a single mum. We did live together briefly but when we argue he always seems to run home and the last time he moved out and i have grown tired of the running from different homes so i havent asked him to move back in. He likes the arrangment i think because it suits him and his mum. Recently i have found myself becoming very resentful towards him and his mum and things at times have been strained especially when he expects me to play happy families visiting his relatives.We recently fell out and didnt speak for almost a month and during that time he wrote me a letter to see what had gone wrong, i had told him i didnt feel the same way about him anymore and told him i felt a single mum. During the time we had fell out i met someone else and went out a couple of times with him, although i am back in speaking terms my partner seems to think we are back on and thats everything is fine. I like this other guy but dont feel there can be too much between us as i wont be able to get rid of my supposid partner, I am 35 and don't want to feel I have wasted my life, what on earth should I do? I have already been told that i gave him children so its my job to see it through with him. At the moment i have only been out with this other guy 3 times should i carry on seeing him, he is aware of my situation or should i end it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): KUDOS! Awesome! Ultra fabulous you found a man who is a MAN. Ever think he happened into your life for a reason? Enjoy Mr.lovable kiss,kiss..spoon. Please, please, give yourself consent to love and be loved.Feel empowered!
Any man who prefers his mummy doesn't deserve a loving woman.
In five years where do you see yourself? Be happy! life is toooooo short to waste it over spilt milk.
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reader, milk and cookies  +, writes (15 November 2010):
I see you are old enough to understand that your children come first. Try and seek out a relationship that will lead to a father for your children and a meaningful realationship for yourself. Stay focused of you job and on your children. Don't bring different men into there lives, just have dinner or out for a few hours, do not bring men home. Stay focused on self improvement. Get birth control Set up child suport from your childrens father if ppossible
GOOD LUCK MILK AND COOKIES
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 He's just occupying space and stopping you from see other guys. He thinks if he can't earn your love and admiration at least he can keep you and make you feel guilty of attempting to break family ties. You know what you should do. Make sure you do it for good this time because this on and off relationship isn't giving you what you need, even if things don't work out with that new elusive guy. The right thing for your partner to do is to marry you, but nothing you wrote here would make that a good idea.
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reader, mod_gurl +, writes (15 November 2010):
Regardless if your seeing some one new or not, your partner's 42 and hasn't left the nipple. I don't think he ever will. He's had 7 years. The only obligation you have is to raise your children in a healthy environment. Staying with him is NOT going to do that. Don't let others guilt you into staying with some one who doesn't make you happy. Like I said, your only obligation is to your children. As long as you fulfill those obligations, it's okay to have fun and meet some one new. Life is meant to be lived and loved.
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