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writes:I need help, i am a 19 year old guy who has problems approaching women. I am a pretty good looking guy but i just can't build up the nerve to do it. I plan on what i will do then i chicken out. I am in college and surrounded by women that i feel i can't communicate with. I would love any women to tell me what is a good way to open when talking to them, what they look for and how to impress, also if any guys have tips i would greatly appriciate the help. thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (26 January 2008):
 The first thing you do to a girl is to look her all over and praise whatever you think is praise able.LOL! It could be her smile, her hair, her dress , shoes or anything.
Flattery will open all the doors. It would set her on the right mood. Try to make her laugh in your conversations. You would look interesting to them.
Read up about the current issues and be well versed in it to be able to be a good conversationalist.Read some female magazines, so you will know what are the current females issues .
Be confident because most girls like a confident and strong man. You are da man!
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (25 January 2008):
 I copied advice that I gave another guy who has the same problem as you... you are not alone..............
You Know what? I think if I were looking at you... and you "winked" at me, in a nice way, I would think that you are soooo sexy.
Girls like guys that display confidence. Whether you are confident or not. """The way you PRESENT YOURSELF is how other people view you.""" REMEMBER THAT !! And go with it.
People who don't know you, don't know what you are afraid of, insecure of, likes or dislikes. You can bluff girls into thinking that you are confident. Display it, and they will never know.
But remember... don't carry it too far, because girls don't like JERKY guys.
Act strong, act confident, act like a leader. Show your intellegence. Being insecure is "Your little secret."
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reader, buddys  +, writes (25 January 2008):
 Women love complements, so there's a good start. Tell her you like her hair or her t-shirt (ask where she got it). It doesn't have to come across like a pick up line. Just say it and carry on for the day. The next day, ask her something like 'what do you think about this nice/crazy/stormy weather we've been having?' I know it seems pretty tame approaching her that way, but you won't come across too strong, and she'll be more open to you if you just kind. Being good looking will only get you so far. Being a good guy will get you farther. Besides, even saying something little like that to her will make you feel great about yourself (like you really made an accomplishment) if you're really shy. Good luck. Keep us posted on the progress.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii  +, writes (25 January 2008):
 don't plan! i know quite a few men that like to plan everything and life is just too simple and rehearsed when planning be spontaneous!! :D if your in a bar just say can i get you a drink or something. a simple hi can be the start of a great friendship or maybe more
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