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writes: hi i am 15 and i have this really nice boyfriend but the thing is that i fancy this other guy a lot.I have been m8 with this other guy for about 16 weeks now and he is really nice. but i dont konw what to do i dont konw if to ask this other guy out or say with my boyfriend. but this guy i fancy he fancy me to and he call me all the time and he text me and we talk a lot on msn as well. i still love my boyfriend but i just dont konw what to do so could anyone help me if u can i will be so happy
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2006): Good answer from Bev on this. Have fun and enjoy being a happy 15 year old girl. Dating can help to build self-esteem, it can help teens figure out who they are and can teach social skills so I view dating as a form of shopping around, especially at your age. It's does not necessarily have to become 'exclusivity'. You are young, hun and dating is fun and it's a life learning skill that prepares you for adulthood. I am not sure if you roamntically loved your bf, maybe you 'love' him more as a friend. If you really romantically loved him, no other guy would 'turn your head' like this. And that's okay. So I suggest you enjoy the company of interested guys, but always stay real and honest. Like Bev says, show respect and treat your bf's emotions with care when you tell him you want to date others. All healthy relationship, including friendships, are based on trust, respect and caring not to cause pain to others. Being able to identify and be in healthy dating relationships is a very important skill for young people to learn. Have fun dear and good luck.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (13 July 2006):
 This is pretty simple. It boils down to: who do you like better and have more in common with?
You feel obligated to your boyfriend because he *is* your boyfriend, but if the playing field were level, and they both liked you, what would you do? Who would you be drawn to?
You don't do your current boyfriend any favours if you stay with him only out of a sense of obligation. Especially when you're texting and MSNing another guy you appear to like better.
What you need to do is decide in your own mind which ~one~ boy you want to spend your time with. If it's the new boy, you need to be truthful with your current boyfriend and break up as kindly and gently with him as you can (and do it soon, before he hears about the new boy from someone else).
If you'd really rather stay with your boyfriend, then you need to remember that all this contact with the new boy drains the energy from your current relationship, so you have to cut that out.
Make the choice that suits you, then stick to it. Otherwise, you'll hurt people.
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