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I allowed my g/f to have a guy on the side and now everything is all mixed up

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Question - (24 June 2012) 3 Answers - (Newest, 25 June 2012)
A male United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

My fiance and i have been together 12yrs she told me stories all her lovers all had big endowed penises 10+ and i half that size well she dont relize how much she tells me how great it was and even tells aquaintances. I loved her very much that i thought she needed another guy before marriage and she didnt want to so we pretended. One day she came home said i found the guy i want to have a boytoy status with well she kissed him on her own so i thought she needed it. Since i loved her alot i put aside my feeling and let her have her flings hangouts we got along better she come home happy it was easy for me to be happy well they didnt know how go about it i eeven had tell the guy it was good so i text him its ok to do it and told her just kiss him since she already had but she kissed for hours and disided this is wrong she loved me and couldnt have sex but after had oral with him so something i thought she needed that she said shewanted but didnt ended up her chasing him lying to me that she did do it and feels since she had permission she is right but only reason they dont talk is she offered him a truck to have a sex contract with him and he didnt want to this went on for a year and something i thought she needed she acted on so i made it like a sexual fantasy thing and now she says she only wanted me and oral and kissing passinately is not as bad as intercourse help any opionion

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (25 June 2012):

Honeypie agony auntWell, seems like you handed her your balls too.

I think she told you fibs about all those 10inch dicks. To make you feel bad enough to let her do whatever she wanted.

Honey, it's time to take your balls back and stand up for yourself.

Can you really see yourself down the line with this woman as your WIFE? To have and to hold, to forsake all others? Really? Or are you going to continue with HER having open relationships and you (I'm guessing) paying the bills?

What do YOU want?

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A female reader, Mature Lady United Kingdom +, writes (25 June 2012):

I am sorry how foolish have you been to allow the woman ou are supposed to be marrying to carry on like this especially with your permission,she has no respect for you in belittling you in the way she is doing,stop allowing her to use you as a doormat,and do not consider goin into a marriage with her,move on and find someone who will show you more respect.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2012):

You love her so much you agreed for her to have a fling, now she performed oral sex on her fling and this makes you upset. You had hoped the fling would not lead to any intercourse and they would only kiss and hold hands? She told you about sex with other men and by so doing belittled your manhood, she broke some code of relationship ethics by comparing your man package to other dudes. Why are you sticking around? Find someone who thinks you are fantastic for who you are.

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