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writes:My husband of 26 years texted over 1000 messages in on month to another man. I saw it on the phone bill.I never saw any of the messages...What do you think?Says was discussing wives, children and problems......
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 This is an awkward situation. But I think you might have to CAREFULLY ask him what's going on? It might just be a friend, but there is also the a possibility that something sexual is going on. I don't know.There is a lot of homophobia in the world...But 1000 messages a month sounds strange.But hopefully, if you ask him what's going on, he'll have a simple explanation for it.It might even be a bogus phone record. You know, some mistake.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (22 September 2010):
 That is alot of messages but it doesn't seem to be a major warning signal although I do hope that he has unlimited texts or that bill would be a fortune. He may have just found a friend who he can really talk to about anything. Everyone wants to have a friend like that and that person has to be someone outside of the family.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (22 September 2010):
 Well, that SOUNDS like a lot, but that's only 30 a day, or 15 each way per day, which does sound like a lot but I wouldn't jump to conclusions necessarily. it's really easy to rack up texts, esp if you have just one sentence reponses. it would probably amount to in real time, like a 10 minute conversation or so. if you're not able to check his phone, you're gonna have to either trust him or do some more thorough digging on him.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (22 September 2010):
 That's quite possible. 1,000 messages (I know, give or take) in 30 days averages about 33 messages per day. If anyone is familiar of chatting in a chat room, instant message, or posting on a discussion board, that's easily doable. I wouldn't be worried. He may love texting like other people love IMming, and may have a job (or be retired) that allows a lot of down time.
You might want to consider a plan that allows for free texting, and hopefully your husband isn't texting and driving or otherwise neglecting crucial things (like the train driver who was texting and caused a crash). People need good friends, and I guess texting is the method of choice.
I would just mentally file it away and keep your eyes open for any other changes in behavior (unexplained absence, irritability, hiding phone contacts, other suspicious things). But I wouldn't worry about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): I think you should trust him if you'se are married and happy then it shouldnt be a problem if he texts another man maybe he just wants a male opinion on things.
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