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writes: Is it possible that man, can go impotent for years with one partner ,but get it back later with an other one? I'm just in a turmoil,because my husband went suddenly limp,a few years ago, and the doctors has no clue,why.They run tests,and he is not sick. He has night erections,and he can get it up,but lose it all the time.So we had no normal intercourse years ago. He goes limp in me... So we went to therapist,and doctors. They could not fix this,or tell what is this. And I'm losing my marbles,because I don't know what to think. He says he loves me,but it is like that years ago, and I cant stop thinking,that is somehow just me and him..Well there is no more thing we can discuss verbally.And no more thing to try... About Viagra... does not work without strong desire.. What should I do? It is a 23 year long marriage..Please give me ideas...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): Go for a vacation! Try the wildest sexy things! If it does not do anything ,give up on sex,or leave your husband! Sexless marriage is not worth it.Think about it, why would this happen for no reason? Take care!
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (5 January 2010):
 He loves you but may not be attracted to you anymore. It could have something to do with the way you are as a woman, but more than likely after this many years of being together, he sees you more like a roommate, a sister, but not a sexual partner. Sadly this does happen sometimes in really long term relationships but I don't know how to solve it. Do you ever see him looking at other women, watching porn or sneaking around to surf adult chat rooms? You may need to take a good look at the type of women he finds attractive. Is it time for a make-over? Often we wives become rather "comfortable" in our baggy clothes, our filled out bodies and going out without make-up or any specific fuss. If you are guilty, it may be time for you to lose a few pounds, dust off your high heels, find some new clothing have your hair, nails done and start wearing some make-up. It might just revive his interest in you and thus, make him more sexually excited.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): Did you try to ask? Well sorry,I guess you did. Because it is long time ago now. I think maybe it is a specific condition.. Good luck,but don't wait too much
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (4 January 2010):
 Real difficult one... mmmmm.. see if you can get a referal to see a sexual therapist... you need an expert on this... If he can gain an errection but can't sustain it, then it's something his thoughts are doing in his head. He needs to talk to someone about what thoughts are making him go soft.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): I have heard that partner specific impotence is not uncommon. I don't understand though. You seem to say that he does try occasionally.. that means there is desire. but then he loses it... so why wouldn't viagra help? I used with my partner once when he was stressed. That was a bit clinical but it took care of things. He got his confidence back and we never had to use it again, ever. I agree with MAL.. try everything other than intercourse. Let him please you otherwise...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): night erections have nothing to do with you or his desire or lack of desire...can you get him off by doing oral...meaning can hes sustain an erection and cum if you stimulate his penis by hand or mouth?
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