A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,Seems like the question has been asked before....but for whatever reason I feel my situation is different. I have been with my husband for almost 5 years now...we had a long distance relationship and of course when we saw each other we had sex constantly....then when he moved in with me it decreased to about 2-3 times a week. Every April/May, right when the seasons change, he looses his sex drive and gets depressed. This lasts about a month. When it first happened it really freaked me out and I didn't know what to do....but I knew I had to deal or end it. So I stayed and like clockwork a month will go by and everything is normal.Well....we have been married for about 8 months....(living together for 3 years) I would say about 5-6 months ago...his sex drive just died. We would only have sex if I made the move. Even then...it was..difficult. Sex was good and when we did do it he was extremely into it. Well in the last 2 months this has pretty much stopped...there really isn't a way to get him to want to. I've tried talking to him but he says he has no interest in sex. So like most women I asked him straight out if he was having sex with anyone else. He said no, he has no interest in having sex with anyone. He is still affectionate and want to hug and cuddle and all that. but no sex. He also told me recently that we only have the few times in the last 2 months because he knows I have needs and felt obligated. So clearly. I am not going to make the move because that is so not sexy. He has also said he never wants to be with anyone else and would never leave me or do something that would end our relationship. So now I am at the point where I don't know what to do. I can't make a move...he is totally uninterested and I have never felt uglier or lonelier.I love my husband so much and I have never been okay with people who cheat. In fact my husband knows that if he cheated he might as well pack his bags because i'm done. But...I guess this situation makes me see why people do cheat. 6 months is awful and i'm so annoyed I could scream....but years? I don't know what to do. -Confused
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reader, DakotaFleming +, writes (12 February 2011):
hes depressed and needs counseling.
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male
reader, doublejack +, writes (11 February 2011):
Is this guy a lot older, or under a lot of stress at work? Something sounds off to me. I'm struggling to understand why a guy would go from a sex machine to completely uninterested in it.
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