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age
41-50,
*eautifulsaved
writes:Dear Cupid,My husband and I recently celebrated (and I use the term loosely) our 7th anniversary. Through the miracle of texting, I found out my husband has been seeing another woman for about half the time we've been married. He says he never had sex with her, but she shared some pretty personal stuff that he told her about me (ie. my job, my children, my church,etc.) He won't tell me her name. I don't know why. I took my wedding rings off because I am so angry, yes we are still together. This angered him. But he won't talk to me. My questions are 1) is this marraige worth trying to save? and 2) How can I get him to open up to me?
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reader, MMMaM +, writes (20 June 2009):
Maybe he didn't feel you were approachable, so he found someone else to talk to. How well have you communicated with one another?
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reader, athenas +, writes (19 June 2009):
I agree with pureskinnyposh you really need to talk to a pator or therapist I mean he needs to tell you whats going on you have to ask him whatever you want to know and he has to give you answers i mean if he wants to save his marriage. If you have kids you might want to think this twice but its your choice. Good Luck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): I worry about the fact that he wont tell you the woman hes been saying. im worried its someone you actually know...i think you need to see a marriage therapist if you want this to work out otherwise leave him.im shocked hes done this for half the time youve been married.
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reader, PureSkinnyPosh +, writes (19 June 2009):
One of the questions he needs to address is why won't he tell you who he is seeing. I don't think the best thing is to leave, might I suggest marriage therapy or seeing a pastor perhaps to try and figure out why this has.
You haven't mentioned if there are kids involved which is another important factor. Obviously I wouldn't expect you to stay just for the kids as sometimes that's worse but I think there are many issues to resolve before walking out the door becomes an option.
I'm not married but I can honestly say if I was in your situation I would be upset and rightly so. Maybe you can take a break, stay in a hotel until therapy begins as a way to feel you have some time to yourself without his presence.
I hope this helps. Stay strong.
Light & Love
xoxoxx
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