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writes:my husband of two years (bf for 4 years) he got another woman pregnant he told me it was a mistake and he still loves me what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, rivi  +, writes (5 February 2011):
Well if you don't have a kid with him and you're sure you're not pregnant by him I'd get out of the marriage pronto.
If the other woman isn't going to have an abortion then he has this constant reminder / connection with her when he sees his offspring. How's that going to work ?
You're young enough to start again : regard it as a life lesson.
A psychiatrist would say he probably wants the marriage to end anyway : otherwise at minimum he would have used condoms etc to avoid her getting pregnant. He prob wants out but wants you to do the ending of the marriage : so give him what he wants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011): Leave him, unless you want this child and the baby momma to be a regular part of your life forever. Just imagine all the drama that will cause, and that's an understatement.
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reader, just a female  +, writes (5 February 2011):
 really? it just kind of happened? sure, sure, sure., keep talking. ok well in my opinion that kind of thing doesnt just happen. 1) he cheated on you with another women.2) he got her pregnant3) he obviously didnt wear protection.4) He clearly cares nothing for your feelings5) or nothing for the quality of your relationshipim sorry if that sounds mean but for the info you provided thats how it looks to anyone else.was there something missing in your realtionship? is that why this happened?remember this is not yuor fault this is his mistake and now you both have to pay for it.what a stupid thing to do.ok i dont think you should be with this man anymore.you are now going to have o deal with the fact he is going to have a child with another women.has this happened b4? is he unfaithful? yes he is.do you trully want to be with this man now? after what he has done to you? i dont think he deserves you anymore atall.hope this works out for youxxx
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (5 February 2011):
 Interesting mistake .... but what bit was the mistake exactly, him looking outside the marriage for sex, or him having sex outside the marriage, or him impregnating another woman or you finding out about it. A mistake? Seems like more than one little mishap on his behalf there.
What do YOU want to do? Is the marriage worth saving, can you trust him again? Are you willing to accept another woman's child as part of your family? Are you all going to get together for important occassions, you, your husband, his child, the child's mother, and any kids you might have to share christmases and birthdays and first days at school and graduations and so forth and so on?
If you have children you need to decide if you can accept their new brother or sister into the family, any decisions you make will also affect them.
If you dont have children your choices are better, only you will be affected .... but when you are deciding what to do think about the fact any decision you make now will impact the rest of your life.
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