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writes:How do I get over this girl?Alright sorry if this is a little lengthy but here it goes?I am an 18 year old guy and live in MN. Every time I travel down to Texas to see relatives I see one of my cousin's friends Jamie. The first time I met her was about five years ago where we spent time talking for hours and when I returned home I had an instant crush on her. Young love passes though and I forgot about her till two years later when I went back and again I practically fell in love. In the past couple years I have traveled down there annually and each time I look specifically for the time I get to see her. Last year I saw her as my cousins graduation party and we flirted from across the room but she left before I was able to really talk to her. And this year she was unable to come to the house when I was visiting. I was talking to her quite frequently on facebook and know more about her than I have about any other girl in my life. Since the opportunity I missed two years ago she has been completely stuck in my head. We stopped talking a few months ago but even so she is still stuck in my head. In my mind she is idealized cute funny nice smart and even has the same religion. I feel like scratch that in my heart I know that if the situation were different we would at least be really close friends. and the fact that I have relatives which she is close to and I have her relatives at my church and a cousin of hers at the college I will be going to seems like it was meant to be but there is a thousand miles between me and her except when she is at boarding school in WI but is unable to leave. I have been trying to get over her because she said that she is going to go to college in Texas meaning we will stay a thousand miles apart and I know it won't work. Please help I really want a relationship in my life and that may have something to do with this but it needs to end so I can have a chance to connect with someone new in the future. Thanks
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reader, virus1902  +, writes (6 June 2010):
We are facing the same problem. Be bold and courageous to catch her if she is still single. The happiness comes from what you have done practically rather than only talking with her on the internet. There is a boundless Pacific ocean between my bf and I. So the long distance is not a big problem but it is indeed uneasy to keep well the relationship because of your different friends and environment. But you can insist on loving her lasts 5 yrs , i believe you can achieve your happiness. Come on!
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reader, babygirl635 +, writes (6 June 2010):
hey:/ sorry that you have this problem. you need to tell her how you feel, because obviously you cant get her off your mind for years. speak with her about it, when its just you and her. tell her she is all the things u think she is. shell understand if u dont want a relation ship sou can move on. good luck
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (6 June 2010):
 Long distance relationships work ONLY if both parties put the same amount of effort in. If you are the only one running about trying to keep it going move on because you will end up exhausted from all the giving you are doing. If however she is putting in the same amount of effort then stick at it after school you can plan to live in the same area.
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