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writes:Hey everybody. I need some help. I really like this guy, and I feel like we hit it off, but I'm afraid that he's not into me.I met this guy 2 months ago, I was doing a research paper, and he approached me and asked what I was doing. Right away, we started talking and getting to know each other. Before I had to go to class, he said that he hoped to see me again and we went our seperate ways. I was stupid, I didn't get his number then.Since then, I kept an eye out for him, if I saw him again, I would talk to him. Yesterday, he approached me again and started to pick things back up. We decided to walk across campus to another building so that we could talk. One thing that really confused me was that he barely remembered anything from our last conversation, which was a sign of a bad memory... Like, he even reintroduced himself.When we were alone and talking, we got to know each other very well. And he was just so sweet, and incredibly shy. He even admitted to not being the type of guy to branch out and talk to new people. Even when he said something kind of stupid, he would say, "That was stupid. Why did I say that. Sorry." He did that twice, which is a sign of nervousness. While we were talking, he asked for my number. I gave it to him and he said that he would give me his later. Another odd thing that he kept asking was if he was holding me up from something. I didn't look impatient, so I was wondering why he kept asking me. But we had so much in common from favorite colors, to our hobbies. When it came time to go, he was the one who said that he was going to go back to where we met up. I said before he left, "Don't forget to text me, ok?" He said, "Ok." And that was it.I really thought we hit it off, but I haven't heard from him. I know I'm that stereotypical girl who's waiting by her phone, but I'm not used to not getting a text within 24 hours of giving out my number. In fact, I feel silly asking about this, but I usually get a text within 5 minutes. I mean, I don't think he has a girlfriend, because then why would he ask for my number? He was extremely shy, so maybe he's nervous? But he was also VERY forgetful, obviously, right?Does it seem like things went ok? Because I REEEEALLY like this guy. I mean, we talked about other things too, this sounds like we had a short conversation, but we talked for almost an hour. I asked my sister if maybe I came off too eager, because I thought I was pretty laid back. But she says that it sounds like he's not interested. I hope that's not the case.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2013): I said: "video-game junkie." They don't get out much and prefer gaming to socializing. They take their games wherever they go, and prefer socializing only with people of the same interests. Strictly online. Video-game Nerds are more social creatures and enjoy the company of others. Most of my friends are video-game nerds. I do not place them in the category of junkies; who have an "addiction." For clarification.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (3 April 2013):
 My first thought was ADHD too! (having it makes me more sensitive to how it impacts on our social lives)
you seem to be very black and white in your thinking
this signals a bad memory (maybe maybe not)
this is a sign of nervousness (maybe maybe not)
the problem is you REALLY like this guy so you will think about every second of every time together looking for clues.
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reader, LittleMan +, writes (3 April 2013):
(LOL! person below me, that's rude about video game nerds. We're not that socially distanced.)
Hi. From what you've mentioned it seems like he does like you. With those; "That was stupid. Why did I say that. Sorry."- just be patient I'm sure he'll text you, unless he's uncomfortable with that and he'll just talk to you. It definitely doesn't seem like he has a girlfriend with his shy mannerisms. Did you flirt a little? Look him in the eye when he talked. Touch your hair, bat your eyes etc. Because if you did, he should definitely know that you have a thing for him. That's the easy part about being a girl imo, not having to make many first moves, just giving occasional signs. Haha.
Anyways, Best wishes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2013): He may have a mild form of attention deficit disorder. You were perceptively picking up some slight oddities in his personality; but you should be a little patient. He did excuse himself for the flaws in his interpersonal skills and you should graciously over-look them. However; maintain these oddities in the back of your mind.
He is apparently very introverted and you're going to meet a lot of guys like that. Trust me on this.
Lets give him benefit of the doubt. If you have his number, give him a call just to see how he's doing. He may not be interested; but I think you may have picked up on something else about him. keep an open mind, but don't be too disappointed. Let's hope he's not a pothead or drug abuser!
Worst case scenario, he is a video-game junkie. They tend to be a little awkward in the real world.
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