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writes:hey please help there is this guy i like a lot and he likes me and i know he is about to ask me if we should start a relationship but am afraid he is younger than me he is 19yrs old,am 20yrs old what do i do? he hasn't told me his age yet but am also afraid to tel him as i don't want it to be weird Is it posible to date someone younger than you if you are a lady and and what do you think will happen i wouldn't want it to change or impact our relationship and should i tel him how old i am?please help Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 February 2012):
 One year is nothing , it should not be an issue. But, as another poster said, it would surely work better if you were 30 and he 29, or even you 25 and he 24. Why ? Because at 19, a lot depends from his personal level of maturity. Some guys at that age are really just kids with adult clothes and a driving licence, but to an average 20 y.o. woman they would feel as if she's going out with a kid brother . Same tantrums, same unreliability, same short attention span, same fickleness. Others are already more grown up. So, I guess it all depends from what kind of guy he is.
And DO tell him your real age. If he turns you down because you are a 20 y.o. " granny "... then you know he'd be the wrong kind of teenager anyway.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (4 February 2012):
 Go for it.When I was 20 my fiance was 7. I would not have dated him then of course....I find this to be one of the last barriers to break down in dating... older women and younger men... and one year is NOTHING....my father when he started dating his current partner after nearly 50 years with my mom (she died tragically)... was horrified that he was dating an OLDER woman..... she's older by 6 months... as I say BFD....
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2012): I'm dating a guy who is 18. I am 19. It's not a big deal. Sometimes I can tell when he acts slightly more immature about things, but he's growing up like me, and we're both maturing and gaining experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2012): Maybe it's still a cultural thing, but in North America it's not really a big deal for women to be older than men when they're dating.
This depends, however on WHEN the age gap is- if there is an age gap and the adults are in their thirties+ it seems to matter less.
The younger you are the more people seem to find it strange if there is an age gap.
In any case, you two are both over 18 and it's only one year! I say go for it girl!
As an aside- I'm older my boyfriend by one year as well- and we've been together for years. We dated when I was 20 and he was 19 too.
Have fun!
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