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writes:SO THERE ARE THESE TWO GUYS. WHOM ARE BEST FRIENDS. AND IM DATING ONE OF THEM BUT I REALLY WANT THE OTHER. THEY ARE BOTH SOOO SWEET BUT I THINK IM IN LOVE WITH THE ONE IM NOT DATING. I HAVE NO CLUE WAT TO DO OR HOW TO TELL MY BF IM IN LOVE WITH HIS BEST FRIEND!PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO...???
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 you need to split up with your boyfriend regardless of what happens with his friend. its not fair on him to be with someone who wants his mate and its not fair on you to be with someone you dont really want. that relationship is already over, you just have to say the words and make it official.
as for the friend, i think thats a bit of a no-no. all you can do is leave it a few months and let the dust settle then see how the situation is looking. you cant do anything straight away, you will hurt your boyfriend and the friend probably wont be interested because if he is any kind of decent friend he wouldnt do that to him.
end your relationship, leave it a few months at least, wait til everyone has moved on and then reassess. you dont say how long you have been dating your boyfriend but if it hasnt been long and you're not serious then he might be more likely to be ok with you dating his friend a few months down the line.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Oh boy, you've got yourself in a right quandary here.
There is one thing that is an absolute guarantee. If you go off with the best friend, you will ruin their friendship.
But I feel what is more likely to happen is that you tell the best friend , he tells his mate and you never see either of them again.
I'm sorry to say but you are in a no win situation here, I would advise you to split up with your current boyfriend as you already are on the lookout for a replacement. Leaving him under the impression that you two are lovey dovey while you lust after his best friend is dishonest and is hardly the way to let a future partner know what type of person you are.
I dont want to be judgemental , hell I was a right little cheat in my late teens/ early twenties so I can hardly talk. But just show your current boyfriend some respect and dump him. Its the only way, he deserves to be going with a girl who is not after his best friend.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (11 October 2007):
Stop dating your bf. After a couple of month ask the one you like if your ex would object.
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