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How to tell my best friend I am transgender

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Question - (12 May 2018) 3 Answers - (Newest, 13 May 2018)
A male United Kingdom age 22-25, *ylangov19 writes:

dear cupid

i have to tell my best friend that i am transgender but he is not good with change and i don't know how i should tell him as not to like freak him out about this big change

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom + , writes (13 May 2018):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntDo you want to socially transition soon? If so, you could slowly start dressing the way you want, cutting/growing your hair, etc. If you already have before you met him and you want to tell him about your past, I suggest below....

Find something trans-related (a positive thing) and discuss it with him to see how he feels about it in general, then mention that you're trans too.

If you've already transitioned, nothing has to change just because he knows.

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A female reader, femmenoir Australia +, writes (13 May 2018):

femmenoir agony auntThis is your best friend and best friends are supposed to be our greatest supporters and they don't "judge" us as others may.

If your best friend is truly sincere toward you, then you telling him about you being transgender, shouldn't really be a serious issue for him.

Yes, initially, he may well be very surprised, or he may even be shocked, as he wouldn't be expecting you to disclose this about you, but again, he's your best friend and you'd expect him to get past his initial reaction and simply show his friendly support and acceptance of who you are.

This is what true friends do, they accept us for who we are and they don't judge us and hurt us.

It matters not what anybody's sexual preference is, because we've all a right to be who we are and we shouldn't ever have to hide from the truth of who we are and if our family/friends cannot come to accept this, then perhaps they're not the unconditionally loving, supportive and accepting people we'd expect them to be.

You are human and you are comfortable in yourself, so this shouldn't impact negatively on anybody who loves you and cares about you.

This is human love, this is human respect.

Do not worry about anything.

You stand tall, simply be who you are and just tell your friend, as soon as you both have some quiet time together.

It's not a crime, it's not big, dark secret, it's simply you.

Just be yourself and if he is a true friend, he'll stand by you.

All the best! :-)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2018):

Honestly, he is your best friend... so I would think he will understand and be open-minded about it. And the fact you guys are best friends, I'm sure you two can talk about anything right? So, maybe sit him down and slowly explain your situation and let him know. He might be shocked for awhile or something as it is quite naturally to have this kind of reactions of a news like that. But at the end of the day, I'm sure he will be fine. don't you worry!

All the best :)

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