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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now. I've dated many guys before him but he's the first guy I actually want a future with and sometimes I fantasize about marrying him someday (but I'll never tell him that, that would probably freak him out haha). I just feel like we are on the same wavelength...he has never lied to me, he makes me feel at ease to say whatever I'm thinking and just be myself, he doesn't flirt around with other girls and if a girl flirts with him he straight up tells them he has a girlfriend that he loves, he really understands me and can tell how I'm feeling just from looking at me, etc. I feel like we are just very compatible and I've never really felt that way with anyone else, I love him so much. Sure we argue sometimes but it gets resolved quickly. I make sure to give him space, not be clingy, not call him or text him every second of every day, and let him hang out with his friends without getting mad. And I hang out with my own friends and do my own thing as well so I'm not really a clingy girlfriend to him. We're always teasing eachother and joking around and I love it. We haven't had sex and we're both virgins but he doesn't pressure me into anything at all. I'm actually his first girlfriend and first kiss. But when we have happy moments, it always feels bittersweet for me because I just want this to last and I think about how much it would hurt if he ended it. I feel very certain that I won't lose interest in him, and I'd never hurt him or be unfaithful. And, while I trust him and know he wouldn't be unfaithful, I'm just scared of him leaving my life. It's hard to enjoy my relationship to the fullest when I can't stop worrying about the future and that he'll leave me. I talked to him about this today and he hugged me and said "I'm not gonna leave you, you're the only girl I love". But I still get sad often because I know that there's a big chance he'll leave me just like how most relationships end up. I feel like us breaking up one day is pretty much inevitable and it makes me so down. How can I stop worrying about this and just enjoy my relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2013): Hi, i have been with my boyfriend for over a year now and we have some amazing days. But the feeling of being left behind doesn't just disappear. but its true. You could spend your whole life worrying about tomorrow but then you'll miss the moments that make you forget about any other day. :) hope this helps
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reader, Dave1813 +, writes (23 November 2013):
Hey, I understand what you are looking for. My last girlfriend was my first girlfriend first kiss and all. We were together for 6 months and 8 days. I truly loved her. I know what you are going through. The best way to not think about it is think about all the happy moments you had with him. You are living in the future, you need to live for today. You only get that one chance to find someone so special to you. So instead of thinking about tomorrow and possible outcomes, think about now and how happy you are. Count your blessings with him. Not all relationships last. Like mine. And mine didn't end well. But you are different people so you will obviously have different outcomes. Just be optimistic and open minded about all of it!
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