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How to stop being nervous about sex and such!

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Question - (15 December 2009) 6 Answers - (Newest, 16 December 2009)
A male Canada age 30-35, *ilopinoPhenom writes:

im fine with foreplay with my girlfriend and fingering her and stuff but when it comes to her giving me handjobs and blowjobs and sex im just nervous and it is ruining my erections. how do i stop being nervous cuz im nervous that im not big at all and i wont come a lot please what do i have to do to stop being nervous cuz she says she doesnt care about size and she likes me for me not my penis size which is really nice

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A male reader, bharat mehta India +, writes (16 December 2009):

bharat mehta agony auntIn answer to this question, I have to suggest that some right pattern of thought is needed. it can be this: Sex is principle matter, other wise there would have no such a thing as 'relationship' And, sex-organ is nothing more and nothing less than a 'form', it is form or matter that stand to express the inner most character of sex..'pleasure'...You should not allow any ideas related to any any matter like what I am giving and taking, and what she is up to giving and receiving...pleasure is eternal, beyond time and space...your mind is required to meditate on that 'eternal'...everything related to 'touch'- that 'foreplay' is your 'input' just check its tuning, matching, etc...you will experience the best result possible...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2009):

I don't know what it is with men and their obsession with the size of their penis. Most women are not that shallow. She obviously wants to be with you or she wouldn't be. Most women don't orgasm though sex anyway but with foreplay. Sex is suppose to be enjoyable so relax and enjoy being close to her.

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A male reader, LifeSaver94 United States +, writes (16 December 2009):

Well she apparently wants to have sex and what's to be nervous about? Just relax because she wants to do it your not forcing her to. And just play it cool don't freak out. Because blowjovs and handjobs is all done by the chick. Just let her know your enjoying it and she'll be pleased and if she doesn't give how big your penis size is then you will always be big enough for her. And if you have sex and not sure what to do just play into it. Like let her blow job you for a little and then just get her to turn around and stock it to her. I hope this help and if doesn't just ignore it.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2009):

If she says she doesn't care so much what you do during it, then she's probably just doing it to make you happy. So don't feel so nervous about it. The relationship isn't all about sex, so don't make it seem like you have to fulfill some grandeur night of passion, because that's not what's keeping you two together (hopefully). Just calm yourself, and you both will be fine. And if she's not complaining about it, then you really have nothing to be nervous about.

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A female reader, SeXylOvE12 United States +, writes (16 December 2009):

SeXylOvE12 agony auntIf your girlfriend doesn't care about size then you shouldn't either. If you're too nervous and ruining your erections you're not pleasuring anyone. Just think of how much fun it will be when you can experience a hand-job, blow-job, or sex. I'm assuming she's your first partner. Don't be intimidated because sex isn't going to be awesome for everyone right away. It takes a bit to learn the best techniques. Just try to be confident and have fun. Think about how good your gf will feel when you do keep it up.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2009):

if she says that size doesnt matter den go on do it...if u kno how 2 use wat u have it doesnt matter anyway..if she seems like shes not enjoyin it den get low

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