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writes:So, i've been with my new boyfriend for about 5 weeks now. andwe recently started having sex. The problem is, my ex was a lot bigger in the downstairs department than this new guy. I love my boyfriend to pieces he is absolutely perfect but because hes quite small down there i dont get that much pleasure out of sex with him. I have only orgasmed once with him and that was during foreplay. anytips ofhow to improove sex with a partner thats not well endowed? thanks x
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reader, Bibeauty  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 I agree wholeheartedly with the previous answer. But I do have tips. Try these positions that will ensure a tighter fit and possibly an easier time orgasming by consequence:
1. Have him lie on his back then sit on top of him. Face the wall. Meaning, sit not towards him or fully away him but from the side. Keep your legs together and slowly go up and down his penis as you thrust.
2. Sit on top of him facing the opposite direction with your legs inside his. Close your legs as much as possible and go up and down his penis.
If you're into him on top ....
3. Try wrapping your legs around him in missionary and have him get as close to you as possible the farther away his chest is from yours the looser the fit will be.
4. Try spooning! This is a great intimate way for him to have all access to your tits, and stimulate your clitoris. Or do it yourself! He also has the opportunity to whisper/kiss/lick/ your ear which can be very pleasurable. Also this is great for you because he will have the ability to stimulate all of your body while still having the tight fit that comes from snuggling from behind.
Good luck! And remember despite popular belief it's not the size it's how you use it!
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reader, person12345  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 Most women cannot orgasm from penetrative sex, and most of the ones who can do so because external contact (rubbing, usually from the pubic bone or base of the penis) rather than an in and out motion. The fact that you can orgasm from "foreplay" means everything is great and you two have a healthy sexual relationship. Sex is frequently just not the main event for women. It feels great, but it's rarely enough to finish the job for us. The things you call foreplay aren't foreplay at all. They're the main event for you, for most of us. If you really want to orgasm from penetrative sex, don't rely on his penis, you should add your fingers or his fingers in to bring you there. And orgasming only from fingers or oral is not abnormal and shouldn't be considered anything wrong. The "vaginal orgasm" shouldn't be the goal. Just plain enjoying yourself and having an orgasm should be. So if you want fingers or oral, then you should count that as the main event.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 So are you telling us you orgasmed though intercourse with your ex?
Perhaps your new man just needs some more practice, and you need to get used to him and adapt? It isn't unusual that it takes time to get the moves right when you're with a new partner. Was your ex able to make you orgasm from day one or did it take some time? The typical thing is that it takes time. And in general women orgasm during foreplay, though clitoral stimulation.
How little is little in this case? Have you got any measurements? You can measure discretely by using your hand and then measure your hand afterwards. Girth is also important. I don't really have any tips for you to improve the sex unless you are willing to actually tell the guy he's small and get his cooperation. But that could seriously hurt his self esteem. Men are all about size.
I has a small partner once. Often I couldn't feel him, but I enjoyed it all the same, because we did a lot of different positions. He was only my second partner and I was able to try out all the positions I had never done before, because his size wouldn't make any position painful or difficult. A well endowed man might have difficulties getting in at certain positions....
I just have one lonely tip for you: work out your pelvic floor muscles. And then tighten it to get a better grip around him.
Kegel exercise and pelvic floor muscles: http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/2144.html
And don't be discouraged, it's not only for women who have given birth. It is beneficial for all women.
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