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*yraAlyra
writes:Dear Cupid! I've been dating my best friend for a two weeks now. We have been friends over a 6 years and now it finally became real relationship. He's 23, I'm 21 and we are crazy about each other. The thing is, I'm a virgin and he is not. In fact, he slept with 6 girls so far and eventhough that does not bother me (I had long term relationship (a year and a half) before him and I choosed not to gave my v card to that guy) I'm anxious about the whole thing because I'm afraid I will not be good enough, that I will not know all the things these girls done before. And I'm not jealous in any way.I'm confident with my body and all but I just worry about EVERYTHING too much. How to overcome my so called insecurities and give myself opportunity to be more relaxed in life in general? He is very patient, gentle and amazingly nice to me. He says I've got nothing to worry about and that I'm better than any of these girls in every aspect etc etc (they were mostly one night stands). I know he is the one and I'm 100% sure I will sleep with him eventually and won't regret anything about it. I would love to do that in couple of weeks, but do you consider that as too soon? I mean, we are friends for soooo long but relationship thing is fresh. And please, keep in the mind fact that english is not my main language so I can't express myself perfectly :)Thank you!
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (26 August 2013):
I don't know if I can answer the "is it the right time?" question, but I can tell you the secret to having a good time with him: don't just lay there, interact with him.
Honestly it sounds like he's almost as inexperienced as you, so you will both probably have to learn together.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 August 2013):
 I checked my "guy Dictionary" and found that there is no entry for "to soon (to have sex)".... but that there are oodles of entries for "too late" (starting with, "... from the fourth date, on.....").....
Relax.... I'm sure everything is going to go just fine...
Good luck....
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reader, LyraAlyra +, writes (26 August 2013):
LyraAlyra is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you!
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reader, Aunty Babbit +, writes (26 August 2013):
 My mother gave me a piece of advice that I shall pass on to you (because it was really good).When it's right, it's right! If you have to ask the question "should I?" then it's not right. First night nerves are very normal but if you have even the smallest doubt, then don't do it.Make sure, obviously that you have proper protection (against STD and pregnancy), but to plan this so far in advance is only going to cause you greater anxiety and stage fright.I'm assuming your b/f knows that you're still a virgin so he won't be expecting you to have any "moves".Your good friends so I think things bode well for you.Just relax, talk together and take it slowly. Just let things happen in their own time. I hope things are wonderful for you.PS. Considering English isn't your first language you expressed yourself beautifully xxx
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