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writes:how often do you call your partner? looking for answers from people who are in:1) Long distance relationships (hardly see eachother)2) close proximity (see eachother most days or w/e's)3 and live in relationships (living together)Any answers would be appreciative. Thanks !
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reader, E3093  +, writes (14 June 2012):
1. We are both at different universities and are three hours away from each other by car during term time. As we see each other twice a month, we try to communicate daily. Usually it's a phone call every 2 or 3 days. But we text and facebook chat throughout the day. 2. We used to be 15 mins away by car and see each other every day, so we would have a proper chat once a month. I say proper as in, an hour long conversation, not a sentence or two chat. My boyfriend and I have spent two years communicating like this. To be honest, the frequency and type of communication you and your partner has is a completely personal issue. For instance, my boyfriend doesn't like chatting on skype and I don't like hour long phone calls to catch up. Instead I like frequent 5 minute chats with my guy. You and your other half just need time to adjust to what is right for you two.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (13 June 2012):
 We have done all three.
1) everyday for 30 minutes to an hour. If one of us had plans we'd still make an effort to talk briefly or contact each other in some way.
2) when we started dating we saw each other pretty much every day so we'd call or text to get that set up.
3) we live t never unless we need something (directions, groceries, etc...).
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (13 June 2012):
 3. we live together and have for a good 14 years.
I call him, if I need him to stop by the store on his way home, to let him know if I'm going to be out and about. Some days I don't call him at all. Right now he has rather a ridiculous work schedule, so he will call maybe once/twice a day, to let me know what is going on.
Many years ago we were LDR and would call each other 2-4 times a week, chat on IM daily.
I'm not really a person who is attached to my phone. I have a cellphone, but I mainly have it so the kids can ALWAYS get hold of me and for emergencies. If I'm home or with the kids it's always set to VM. I do not text or use it for internet.
I don't think there is a set of rules for how often people should talk to their SO. I think it's natural that in the beginning you talk more on the phone and later on you "save" it for when you are face to face.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 June 2012):
 My husband is retired but I still am working so I usually will call him during my lunch so as to catch him before his naptime...my day is coming
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reader, Neverjudging +, writes (13 June 2012):
My boyfriend lives 14 hours from me, we talk whenever we can because we both have super busy lives, but we aren't up each others rear ends when we could talk! He works about 40 hours a week and I have ball on top of other things. He'll call me every now and then randomly and tell me he loves me but then has to go. Other than that we talk about 2 hours a day :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 June 2012):
 OH fun and it varies.
1. We were LONG DISTANCE for a year. 2 hours apart by car…. When we started we didn’t call at all… just emails… as we progressed to serious we talked once or twice a week… when we knew even as long distance that we were getting serious and starting to see each other every weekend, we started talking usually twice a day. Morning for wake up and evening for bedtime. We also had chats occasionally during the day depending on what was going on. AND we had lots of emails. Rarely do we text
2. When we were serious and just on weekends (usually Thursday or Friday night till Monday morning) we were talking on the phone every day except when I was with him on the weekend then of course we did not need to talk on the phone much… unless he was out and needed to check on something with me.
3. Now we live together and have full time since December. Yesterday we did not talk on the phone at all… in fact we did not speak till I got home from work and had been home an hour when he woke up… but the day before we had to talk every hour about something that was going on in our home… so it varies.
There are days we don’t email at all or talk on the phone but we see each other every day because we live together… there are days we talk on the phone 5 or 6 times but it’s for important stuff…. Do we get on the phone just to chat any more… NO… but we did early on in our LDR…
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