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writes:I'm a 26 year old women and lately I've been wanting sex more and more lately. I'm recently divorced and I'm not sure if it's because of my single life or I'm hitting my prime. All my friends tell me that I'm hotter than I was in my teens and early 20s. I feel better about myself than I have felt in years. If I'm in my prime how long is it going to last?!
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (30 September 2010):
 @SlimShady I'm not sure whether to be pleased or scared as hell that my peak may be ahead of me. The possibility of my being monogamous by that time is really remote, so...this is practically giving me an anxiety attack here!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): Good question Gabrielle! And I thought the same thing when I wrote that. Yes, I think once a woman becomes self aware, which can mean a good job and her own place, the peak can happen anytime. I think many women go through an early "experimental" peak in the college, or post-college career years. You may be in that. But I think most women reach a peak of complete self identity in their 30's...all the stuff they had as successful 20-somethings, but with the added wisdom to REALLY immerse themselves into their sexual being. In other words, I think the peak, as I've seen it as a man, depends on more than just the external factors of success and confidence. And this combination, together with wisdom, seems to happen in the 30's or even later. Which means that some women, AHEM, will be freakin DANGEROUS in their 30's if their 20's were that good. Of course, love plays a huge part in that. Many 30-something women are married, and experiencing the deep love/sex relationship that only happens with a life partner. To be honest, I have not experienced a diminishing sexuality with women in my life at all. So there is no real "peak" anyway if you ask me. It honestly keeps getting better. The prime may be till it falls off for all I know. That's if the body cooperates, which so far, knock on wood, I'm good.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (29 September 2010):
@Slimshady But how important is each factor? For instance, a woman who is financially independent in her twenties itself and has a place of her own - would she hit that peak earlier? Or is an increase in sexual desire from 29 to say around 38 inevitable?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): In my somewhat limited experience, and being middle age, I'd say most women peak in their early 30's. There may be a biological peak earlier, but the combination of the body being willing, fully developed, the career being well in place, the path to financial success secured, a place of her own or with a partner, stuff to keep it all rolling happily, puts into motion a desire to...well...fuck.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 Everyone is different, obviously, but in my experience women are at their most attractive and sexually desirable around 30-35. That is of course so long as they've kept in shape.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010): It's down to you really, my grandmother told me she hit her sexual prime when she was 60, seriously. That's the age the last of her children left home, she and my step grandad began to live free and easy again, they went traveling together and as she said it was the first time in her life that she felt free to explore her sexuality fully and she took full advantage of it.
People say it's down to biology etc, but she was well past her menopause, the prime of her youth and she was a pretty ripe old age too, but she became invigorated when she had all her children reared and for the first time since she was 18 when she got married and her first child she was free to take advantage of the different time we lived in and wanted to explore new sexual things based on more open attitudes towards sex.
The best piece of advice she ever gave me was that beyond all dreams and goals you have for your life, you should take care of the two most important first. Good health and happiness. Eat right, stay fit, treat people with kindness and compassion, and keep the things/people that make you happy, dump those that don't and never compromise on any of those things.
Sexual prime is when you're at your horniest, fittest and having the most frequent and pleasurable sex of your life and frankly as my grandmother proves you can have that any age. Just enjoy it, don't start questioning how long it will last, because it will last as long as you want it to.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (27 September 2010):
 In my overall experience, it keeps on going up until late 30s at least, although everyone is different of course.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (27 September 2010):
I'm going to have to watch this thread. I've around the same age as the OP and if my sexual prime is *starting* now...the mind boggles. Seriously.
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reader, Ven +, writes (27 September 2010):
It will last until you decide it has ended. Age truly has little to do with how attractive you are considered (until you get up there in years).
Considering the people around you think you are hotter than ever, and you want more and more sex, I would say you should seriously enjoy where you are at.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010): Your "prime" is about attitude + biology. At your age, your not quite at the "prime" that most people believe a woman's sexuality peaks. However, you've likely gotten a huge bounce via your new freedom. Keep the attitude positive and giving and ride it for the next 10 years!
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