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*enizli
writes:Hi everyone, thanks for taking time to read my question.Ok, so um I need help like urgently. The best relationship I ever had is about to collapse and I want to do something before it's too late.Here's the situation, I've been seeing this guy for almost 2 years. I love him so much, like I never loved anyone in my life before. He's my everything.I see him every single day and talk to him for hours, we never get tired of each other, but lately he's been acting somewhat distant to me, he recently started school so I thought it was that but even when he's off from school he acts cold and somewhat mean to me, I've talked to him about this and he says he's stressed but I doubt it because I know him very well and he never acted this way before. I'm afraid he could be losing interest in our relationship or he might be seeing someone else, the idea of losing him forever terrifies me. We used to be so attached but lately, it has changed, lately when we talk on msn he doesn't talk to me as much as he did before, I try to start conversations and he says he has to go like all of a sudden or just screws the conversation with words like 'OK, Cool, Yeah, Idk' this hasn't been happening eventually, it all happened like suddenly, I would really like to know what's going on but he won't tell me. I was thinking the other day that our relationship could be just getting boring, I tried to do something about it but he wasn't very supportive, so it did not work. He never was this indifferent to me before.I love him with all my heart but sometimes I think he's just with me while he finds 'something' better or just cause he doesn't want to be alone.I don't know what to do or he says he loves me yeah I believe he does but like they say 'actions speak louder than words'. I don't know how to talk to him about this or maybe I'm just over reacting but I want to do something before it's too late and he's gone.Please, please help me. Any advice you give will be invaluable to me.
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reader, Denizli +, writes (29 September 2010):
Denizli is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for your help. I think I'll give him some time off
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reader, dreamingbella  +, writes (27 September 2010):
 Were you calm talking to him when his attitude has been changed? People sometimes need space and air the breathe. There's maybe something happened to him which caused the change.
My option is, ask him out to a place you both always relax and feel relaxing the most, maybe the field or the beach where people feel released and open their minds, don't talk but lay down next to him and keep the silence for a while. At that time, if he feels you're the right person that he can share his situation, he will say out loud. I'm quite certain that some men don't like the noise especially when they're not in a good mood. In that case, you're trying to catch him and grab him, you're just pushing him away.
Also if he wants to stop this relationship, he will say. But i hope not.
Wish you luck!
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reader, alien invasion  +, writes (27 September 2010):
 There are a few things to consider. Try to understand what he's going through, and school is stressful, remember that. He may be just loaded with school work and sometimes when someone is in a situation like that, you just need to rest and in some cases that means a rest from everything - even if that includes you.
If wanting to figure things out takes a 2 hour long conversation, then so be it. All as long as things get solved, that's all that matters. Make sure you talk to him about this, and figure out what he wants, and what you want. Figure things out. If he really wants to be with you, he'll figure out a way to change something to make things easier.
Hope things get better for you.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (27 September 2010):
 You need to ask him why he's with you. He may say that it is because he loves you and that is where you may start telling him how you feel about his attitude towards you lately. He will then have to prove it somehow. I doubt it is stress. He'd have to be undergoing a monumental amount of stress to begin spurning the ones he loves. Or perhaps you could find out. Is it a family thing or perhaps schoolwork?
I hope that helps.
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