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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I both turn 23 next month (interesting, I know) and we've been together for a notch over 2.5 years. We used to have discussions that turned into arguments about the fact that he is my third sexual partner (my second was a one night stand) and I am "only" HIS second. According to him, he doesn't even count his first girlfriend because it was "30 seconds of very tight penetration". I told him penetration is sex, so it is what it is and he should count her mainly because I'm sick of him complaining about how inexperienced he is.A little more to the point, I occasionally look up the browser history after my boyfriend has been on the internet when I'm not home or sleeping and I find, every time I do (about twice a week), there's three or more porn videos and they're almost always about FFM and bondage. While it doesn't bother me that he watches porn (I'm not one of those women who gets bent out of shape because their man enjoys the occasional fantasy - I'm his real life and he's just gonna have to deal with that) but it sucks when it interferes with our sex life. "I'm not really in the mood as I've emptied my tanks last night." That talk is bogus and I hear it about three times a week. Even when I have a headache and he wants it.Anyway, the worst part of it is that his expectations of what I should do and/or allow in bed are far too high sometimes. (Like I said, he watches far too much porn to be realistic.) I've let him do anal a few times in the last couple years but then I started bleeding from the rectum and we had to stop. I've since gotten that checked out and everything's fine. But he used to annoy me over it(still occasionally does) because he wants me to perform his ultimate fantasy and that is two women (me and another woman) giving him a blow job at the same time. He's never actually forced me into anything I didn't want to do sexually (we roleplay things, but we have a safe word for all that).Don't get me wrong, though, he's seriously a nice guy and he's never forced me into anything I didn't want to do in any sense of the word but I've told him time and time again that I refuse to let another woman touch or see him in that way. I guess the point of this post is wondering how I can get him to stop watching AS MUCH porn?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (12 January 2013):
 The problem is not porn. It's him wanting to make the impossible acts a reality within a relationship. If he can't care about your feelings then he is too immature to have a relationship. Tell him he to become a porn actor so he gets paid doing what he loves, and he gains tons of experience. But as far as relationship goes he can't have it both ways. That's not what a relationship is for.
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