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writes:How do you move past being cheated on?I've tried I get anxiety attacks and I don't feel good enough for anyone.I've even sat around and cried is it something I did what can I do to ensure this wont happen again. Reply to this Question
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (5 October 2012):
Many relationships end with one partner cheating, or finding another partner, the cheater is happy and the one left behind is sad. I am sorry but this bad experience is something that most of us go through and maybe helps us find better partners in the future. Time is the only real cure but if your nerves are so wrecked that you can't go out the door then definitely visit a doctor. Find a good friend or sister/brother/mother to spill your feelings to and then start working on you. Go to the gym, get some new clothes, and realise that you are a beautiful person and your ex was an a-hole that never deserved you. Good luck.
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reader, eddie85  +, writes (4 October 2012):
 I am going to agree with the other people who have posted thus far. It sounds like the emotional damage that this person has inflicted on you is causing you physical issues. I would encourage you to seek out professional help (therapy) so that you can work through the anxiety that you are facing. In addition, perhaps a trip to the local book store would help -- they often have self-help books that you can read and learn from.
Do realize that not every man out there is a cheater and chances you were with a loser and his reasons for cheating had very little to do with you. Also, if the break-up is recent, the pain is probably more pronounced, but it too will eventually diminish.
Take your time in getting your confidence and your ability to trust again. Again, I emphasize that not every guy is a cad and I would encourage you to make guy friends so that you begin to see that. Also, take a look at all the successful relationships about you and learn to spot good characteristics of men so that you can identify a good catch.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 October 2012):
 It is completely normal for your confidence and self esteem issues to hit rock bottom when you are cheated on. Yes it makes you feel worthless and not good enough for anyone and yes it makes it really hard to trust someone again. It really is horrible to be cheated on, but I have to agree with Caringguy, I think you need to get yourself off to your GP as getting anxiety attacks is worrying and means you are just not coping at all. He or she will be able to give you the best care and treatment.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 October 2012):
Hi,
I think if you are at the stage where you are having panic attacks, then you need to see your GP to be honest. I understand that your esteem will have been knocked, but having a reaction like you are suggests that your nerves are entirely shot, and that you need some help.
I would strongly suggest that you see your GP, who may be able to refer you to counselling just to give you a boost.
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