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writes:As a large guy at the 18. (6'4 and 17 and a half stone) How can I make myself more attractive to the opposite sex? I'm got quite a round face and although I can hide my stomach and that sort of thing I do struggle to look 'attractive'. I feel my lack of experience is evidence. Any help will be great, thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 October 2011):
 at 6'4" 17.5 stone if I figure correctly I think you are around 250 pounds... that's not horrible and I bet I'd find you very attractive...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2011): Never, ever underestimate the power of a good sense of humour.If you can make a woman laugh her arse off constantly, it generally doesn't matter much what size body you have. You know why? Because most women have put up with guy after guy trying to get with them from the second they started to develop.And add to that, most gym junkie blokes are total arseholes that might look good but women only want to put up with for so long.When it comes to an actual relationship, unless the chick is a total shallow bitch, personality will far outweigh yourself.That and know how to go down on a woman like a fucking wizard. If you can keep a woman screaming her head off in bed, you have her where you want her. Women don't need a body to get off to. They can do it with a finger, a dildo, a vibrator... in fact having a beating heart is a perk for women, not a requirement.So yeah, sense of humour and good bedroom skills is all you really need. That and try to lay off the Pie and Chips (meat pies).Flynn 24
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reader, keepinghopealive +, writes (20 October 2011):
 Be confident about yourself,women like men who are confident regardless of your size I'm a big guy too 6'0 210# sure not huge but overweight,but that don't matter because I believe in myself,I know who I am,where I'm going,and what I want. Be honest,caring,and listen to what women say and you'll get there,and like some the others said,dressing well goes along way,appearance is usually the first thing we notice about someone,and what you wear defines you in most women's eyes,think about it,you wouldn't want to date someone that dresses like a slob would you,and lose some weight yeah,its really not that difficult,I thought it would be til I just got off my butt and did it,now 6 months later I'm 50 lbs lighter,feel good looking great,run 30 miles a week,get motivated that's what I didAnother thing be yourself,if your not true to who you are in the beginning with a girl,then eventualy she will find out your full of it,so no bsing...lolMaybe not all agree but that's partly the reason of my success
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 October 2011):
 (First I must tell you that I am not familiar with stones, I think in kg, so I don't know how large you are, Im just going on the "Im a large guy" part).
Dress for your size is a good tip. Just because you are large doesn't mean you should wear a huge undefined bag over your body. You still have a body to love and take care of, you still have a body you want people to SEE. I know a lot of overweight people try to hide away in their clothes, and while black IS slimming, a complete black outfit head to toe isn't always classy, it more like screams "insecure!!". Now, if you're not one to dress flashy and proud, wear something that is nice but still suits you. Bring a female friend along for shopping if you can. A shirt and tie never goes wrong. Be classy, don't try to hide away in your clothes. Sure, so you're larger than what's healthy, but people can see that whether you try to hide it or not. The worst thing you can do is hide yourself, that's like when a tall person tries to be smaller and hunches over like the Hunchback of Notre Dame. You're big, ok, be proud of your body anyway. It's yours. And your body is your temple, no matter your size.
Work to lose the weight of course, that's a given. But in the meantime dress nice and don't try to hide away. You are who you are and a woman who is interested in you will eventually have to see you with your clothes off anyway, so no point in hiding.
Then you just got to do what other men need to do. Fix and style your hair. Get tips from a hairdresser for example. Wear some nice cologne. Be interesting to talk to. Show that you are eager to change your life-style, if that is what has made you overweight. Because if you are overweight you absolutely must change your life style, unless you are looking for a woman equally overweight who's interested in keeping the same unhealthy life style as you are. A healthy woman is primarily interested in a healthy man who shares the same lifestyle as she.
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reader, baby-blue-eyes +, writes (20 October 2011):
the guy i fancy was only a bit slimmer than you and the same height (which by the way to me anyway is a attractive trait) and no exagerration he has about 50 girls that fancy him just because of his personality.
id say :
dress well not scruffily
wear aftershave (that makes a guy so much more attractive)
have a nice personality :)
just be yourself
if you still struggle to find yourself attractive the only thing i could suggest is lose weight but do that for yourself not for anyone else
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reader, Battista +, writes (20 October 2011):
Dress for your size- ie. no skinny jeans for example, and WEAR GOOD SHOES. Good shoes is my top tip, I think it shows that a man really pays attention to the way he looks from top to toe. Make sure you have a good haircut.
These things are just superficial though. As SoVeryConfused says, just be yourself once you get chatting.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 October 2011):
I prefer big guys.. big thick guys...
dress well
groom well
speak well
be yourself.
well groomed men no matter their size are always attractive.
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