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writes: How do you know when a relationship is worth saving? When you've both never been so in love or thought there was someone so perfect, but you somehow, despite good intentions, manage to keep hurting each other, how do you know when to just give it up and move on? We both want things to work, but sometimes I wonder whether there's just too much hurt to get things back to good. When is it time to let go?
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (3 May 2006):
 I think if you are in a vicious cycle of hurt then peace hurt then peace, you need to break that cycle pretty quickly. If you cannot do this on your own (ie.together) then enlist a professional helper, a relationship counseller or somebody similar. Listen to what they have to say and act on it. If that doesn't work and you ahve exhausted all possibilities then....well, only you can answer that! Do you want to carry on being hurt?
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reader, Anja +, writes (3 May 2006):
 Being in love means to understand and compromise on each others faults, no one is perfect. There is no such thing as the ideal person! Of course we build up ideas of the sort of person we would like to be with. Sometimes these ideas get shattered when we meet someone totally the opposite and fall in love. People fall in love with some one for different reasons. If the case here is an issue of trust, then think carefully, a good reltionship is built on trust. Why do you think you keep hurting each other? You should be bringing the best out of each other and working through problems. It's good that both of you want things to work out, I hope you do, sorry can't think of much else to say. Am sure some more experienced and older Aunties and Uncles here could give better advice....!! Good luck and take care xx
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