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writes:One thing I have a hard time dealing with other people's pride, particularly when I am in a close relationship. It gets me so frustrated when a person can't admit they are wrong, or they see themselves as always good, and they never feel remorse.I know I am not perfect, but I do try to be open-minded and consider that I have made mistakes especially if the other person is hurt.But what happens when you hit that brick wall inside a person where he or she can only see his or her viewpoint? How do you deal with it? Or do you? Reply to this Question
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (5 March 2011):
 Yes, you are more than welcome to send me a message. I realize this might be something you would rather talk about in private. I look forward to hearing from you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks both for your replies. FloridaCatGirl, I may email you privately later with examples if it is ok. Janniepeg-thanks for this in particular: "You try to make your partner your equal, not someone to combat with." Well said.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (5 March 2011):
I agree with Janniepeg, it depends on the circumstances, and how often this happens. If your partner fails to acknowledge her faults, and/or is unable to respectfully listen to your point of view, then there’s a problem. To give us a better idea of what’s going on, would you mind giving us one or two examples? Also, how long have you been dating (or married to) this woman?
If you are serious about this relationship, I would highly suggest marriage/couple’s counseling. Would you and your partner be open to this? As I see it, she is being disrespectful and stubborn. Unless something is done about the problem, you will remain frustrated and unhappy.
Please let us know what happens. Stay positive!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Depends on what that person did. If she set the stove on fire, or scratched your car, didn't apologize but instead try to blame someone, then something is wrong. Also how frequently that happens. You try to make your partner your equal, not someone to combat with. Tell that person it's okay to make mistakes and that you are not in their lives to judge them. After a while you have to decide if she has unfinished business in the past that you can't solve. A person who insists that he/she is right all the time can be indicative of a personality disorder. It's usually women who do the complaining so I see that you really are suffering by coming here. It's not about who's right who's wrong. The problem is that you can't really emotionally connect when the person is too guarded.
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