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writes:I'm in desperate need of advice.My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We have a 1 and a half year old son, and live together in a home that we own jointly.He has cheated on me countless times (I've caught him at least 25 times over the past 3 years.) Yet, I always manage to forgive him and give him another chance. This morning, I found evidence in his phone and email that he is still communicating with a woman who he has been "dealing" with since before our son was born. He always denies it, even when faced with the evidence.I want to be done with him. I cannot take this pain any longer. However, I do not want to just kick him out of this home. He has been unemployed for quite a while, and just started a new job last week. If I kick him out, he will have to move to our hometown (2 hours away), as neither of us have many friends here.What do I do? How do I end it for GOOD? How do I move on?Please offer any advice you can. I am desperate. I am near my breaking point.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (20 September 2009):
Please do not worry about what hardships he has to go through: it's called Karma...and it's a bitch. He's cheated on you 25 times?!? Girl, him being left on the street with nothing and no friends will be everything that he DESERVES!
Let him know that you know that he is still lying and cheating, you know that it's never going to stop, and that you will HELP HIM pack his things and leave. Quit being his doormat! If he tries to guilt you into letting him stay do not believe him, tell him that he shouuld call that other chick and ask if he can stay there.
Good for you for realizing that you need to end it with him, but you need to stick to it. Don't be a pushover, dont' believe what he says, and don't let him back in your life. Only communicate with him if it has to do with your son, otherwise, do not give him the time of day. It's OKAY to be a bitch to him, be angry with him--the angrier the better. Think of everytime he's cheated on you and lied to you, it makes it so much easier.
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reader, Rosy  +, writes (20 September 2009):
why does it matter what he has to do? he a grown man not a child, ur only resposibility is towards ur son, not him and his sex life. Get rid of him, he doesnt care about u and what you have done for him he only cares for himself!
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