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writes:I go to the gym about 5 times a week and lately I've been noticing this girl who always seems to coincide with me in the ab workout section, I'm kinda shy and I just wouldn't know what to say to "break the ice" sometimes she glances my way and smiles a tiny bit. I try not to look at her too much as to avoid creeping her out, but I really do want to approach her. what;'s the best way to go about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): First off, you should start casual. If you see her, give her a tiny smile back or a wave. Observe her behavior && her workout routine with slight little glimpses every so often. See what kind of workouts shes into && maybe start a tiny conversation with her about it. Try not to make it blatantly obvious that you're looking at her. Don't stared her down to the point where shes creeped out though. Otherwise she'll think you're a weirdo.
Also throw tiny hints to her that you're interested. Compliment her on her workouts if you come around to talking to her. Asking semi stupid questions such as, "So how long have you been here for? I'm always here && I dont see you that often" might just work.
Most importantly, be yourself.
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reader, malvern  + ♥, writes (23 June 2009):
 Just smile and say something like "Hi, we always seem to be here at the same time don't we!" or better still ask her an open question (one where she has to give an answer rather than a yes or a no). "How long have you been coming to this gym? .... or "what do you think of this gym?". Like student of life said it doesn't really matter what you say. If I was her I'd be thrilled to bits if a nice guy tried to strike up a conversation with me.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (23 June 2009):
 If she's interested in you, it won't matter what you say. The way I do it is usually watch her work out program and ask question about it like "What muscle does that work?" or "Hi, my name is ... , I notice you come here quite often and was wondering if you wanted to go out for a coffee afterwards and maybe go hiking in the upcoming week-end?"
The hiking thing may come out as being too strong depending on how trust worthy you sound. It's a matter of posture, if you're shy, i would stop at the coffee part.
Asking someone out on a coffee is a classic way to show you're interested. If she say yes, it doesn't necessary means that she's in love so don't jump to conclusions.
To gain confidence, it's good to have the "That person is going to like me" mentality. When you approach someone, with that on your mind, it gives you posture.
One last thing, smile. Show that you're happy to see her, everybody like people that smiles at them.
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