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writes:I have been seeing my partner for about eight months. We are so in love and I really cannot picture life without him. He is 20 years older than me (I am 21 and he is 41) and he is separated with five children. This however, is not the problem. Although the age differance does not bother me, I am so scared of telling my parents. I am an only girl and basically their 'little princess'. I feel it would break their hearts about me seeing someone older who already has a family. I have tried to tell them before a few months ago however saying I told them that he was 30 and they even went mad about that. I'm at university in England however he lives in Ireland and when I come back I have to stay with my parents so they know my every move. My mum made me break up with him which I did but it was just much too difficult for me. He totally supported me and although I broke his heart he did understand. It got much too hard to be apart from him and we got back together. I hate hiding my relationship from my parents as there are many things id love to do with him that i just cant do e.g. go on holiday or stay over at his and more simply, go on a DATE! would u believe that we have never even been on a date! our meetings generally consist of me being at his house, watching tv and having a bottle of wine; even now those nights are my favourite thing to do and i never get tired of it. I would absolutely love to marry this man and have children of our own. he is my soulmate and i never want to lose him again. i just do not know what to do about this without losing the support of my family. my partner is very supportive of my situation and has never put me under any pressure to tell them although i know in my heart that he is frustrated that we cannot move further in our relationship.if anyone has a similar situation or any helpful advice on this i would be extremely grateful x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): I am in the same situation. my mum has only just been told about our relationship - unknown to her we have been together 3 years. i hate lying and i feel bad. my dad has said he will kill anyone older than me. i hope everything goes well for you both, and i hope ur family are ok with it. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Age difference might turn out to be the least of your problems as you are dating a MARRIED MAN.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (30 March 2008):
 The time is not right to tell your parents about him.
It will create lots of unwarranted tensions which can be detrimental to your studies.
Wait till you are financially independent of your family and
can decide what you want, then you can tell them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): I am currently in a pretty much similar situation.
And haven't quite figured out what to tell my parents either. Doesn't help that I'm daddy's lil girl too.
The only thing that seems to mitigate the situation, is to prove yourself matured in mind and thought, and independent. It's bad enough that you'll always be a little girl in their eyes, it's worst if you're a silly little girl, isn't it?
G'luck
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