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writes:i like my bestfriend Kyle but he's married and i keep getting broken hearted. and i love him to pieces how do i tell him i love him for all the right reasons.lauren Reply to this Question
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reader, mcbirdie  +, writes (20 May 2007):
 You don't.
I could say more, but that is pretty much the crux of it. You do not show someone that you care for him by disrespecting his marriage and putting this burden on him when he hasn't given you any indication that he wants it.
We can't always get what we want. You want your friend, fair enough. But part of being an adult is recognizing when your desires aren't the most important thing to consider. Respect your friend and his relationship. Be his friend and keep these thoughts to yourself. You will eventually fall in love with someone else--I know it is hard to believe, but it is true.
The guilt over the pain and tension you would cause with this revelation would not be worth it. More likely than anything else, you would not get a relationship with him--rather, you would lose your friendship. Keep your peace. Enjoy your friend's company and want what is best for him.
Best of luck to you.
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