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male
age
36-40,
*dgar
writes:Ive almost brought my partner to orgasm hundreds of times, during coital intercourse, oral intercourse and manual (finger) stimulation. She always stops me seconds before the deed is completed becuase she feels like she is going to urinate on me. She gets extremely aroused but never really reaches full orgasm because of this. How do i make her cum properly?
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reader, Miss_Oz  +, writes (19 May 2007):
 You're not doing anything improperly, the feeling of going to urinate isn't uncommon. She is obviously very aroused and extremely relaxed which is a very good thing. Not everyone knows that women can ejaculate like men, with less fluid and more of a flowing than a 'squirting' that men experience. She could be close to female ejaculation, in which case you should pat yourself on the back, for this is a rare thing to achieve! She is not going to wet herself; what she may be feeling is the simple taut feeling of complete arousal, which might feel strained to the point that she feels if she lets go, she will urinate. If she does manage to orgasm and experiences a release of warm liquid, it will almost definitely be her natural lubrication, just in a larger amount as her reproductive area tenses and pushes it out, if you will. Sometimes I don't doubt someone might accidentally release some urine as they are relaxed but it's not common. See if she will try it; tell her that she could let herself orgasm and just see what happens; she is missing out on something wonderful over a fear that will likely come to nothing. To be honest, while it's happening, I doubt she'd care if the ceiling was caving in. Assure her that if her fear came true that you wouldn't be angry, that she doesn't need to be embarassed and that it wouldn't make you want to leave her, which may be another worry for her. One thing she might try to calm this fear is make sure she goes to the bathroom right before you begin your session, maybe even not drinking anything for an hour beforehand, too. I hope she can at least attempt to prove that she is worrying over nothing. Best of luck to you both.
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