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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hey I have a problem right now with my marriage and would love to receive some advice on how to handle my situation and also if I am doing the right thing.To start off I have to tell you a little about my marriage and myself. My husband and I have been together since we were 14 yrs old, so naturally we have had our fair share of ups and downs. We have both cheated on eachother while we were in high school and have really been able to bond because of those situations. My husband is my best friend and there isn't a doubt in my mind that he is the one that God made for me. We are happy. We come from a small town so all of our problems and business is known and gossiped about by everyone.I have had a history of mental illness and alcoholism on both sides of my family, and since my husband and I no longer live together due to his military obligations I have increased my drinking to a dangerous level. I knew that I was going to end up in a situation I regret do to my drinking and this weekend I was out with friends and got completely wasted, blacked out, and was told the next morning I slept with a random stranger. I have never done anything like this in our marriage before and would never even consider it sober. I know that my drinking was to blame but i know that I have to take responsibility for my actions. My first move was to talk to his family. We are really close and love them as well so I felt that it was only right that they heard the news from me and not as a rumor. I have yet to tell my husband because i dont feel that it is something that should be revealed through email or by phone so I have chose to wait it out until I see him next week. I really would like some advice on how to break the news to him. I am recently seeing a therapist and a psychologist for my drinking and have attended and AA meeting in response to this horrible situation. Did I do the right thing? How do I tell him and have the best chance of not losing him? HEEEEELP... This is killing me!
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reader, lovetokissyou  +, writes (9 March 2010):
If your love for each other is strong and you are being honest with him , that will go a long way into sorting this out. you have lots to deal with and need to have a good supporting group so find that as well as AA and Im sure you will be able to move forward with your husband.
I think only the truth will set you and he free.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (9 March 2010):
 One point favor you, and it is about your bad habit of uncontrollable drinking. It is not consciously choice action, hence you are not responsible for act, which you yourself do not choose in conscious awareness. So, do not be too much emotive on the question, and think it as a mistake, liable for correction. It is not even unfaithfulness. So organize your material accordingly, and present the thing.
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