A
male
age
41-50,
*l1976
writes:I am a 30 year old man. I have been celibate and have not dated since I caught my fiance in bed with another man seven years ago (which ended our relationship). I have recently reconnected with an old friend from high school. I had a crush on her years ago, and I find those feelings resurfacing now. She is intelligent, interesting, witty, charming, and stunningly beautiful - my ideal women. I am terrified at the prospect of hurting our re-blossoming friendship, but I am very interested in pursuing her romantically. I haven't dealt with this sort of emotion since high school. Where do I start? I must know how she feels toward me, but I don't want to scare her off by being too forward. Help!
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reader, Adelaide +, writes (23 January 2007):
 Hi,
It's a great feeling isn't it!!
Firstly,
you need to know if she is dating somebody, this will give you a good basis to build on!
If she is dating somebody else then you pursue your friendship with her and don't try to charm her romantically.
(not yet anyway!)
If she is free and single then you need to make a date, what interests do you both have? aske her out, book a table somewhere that has a friendly atmosphere where you can be relaxed and be yourself.
stay in control on your date dont give away too much, flirt be chatty be friendly, ask lots of questions and listen to her.
If she feels the same as you, then you will be able to tell by her body launguage, if she is attentive to your conversation and attentive to you generally then BINGO!!
enjoy yourself you truly desereve too!!
Good Luck and let me know how you get on
Kindest Regards
Adelaide
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female
reader, cd206  +, writes (23 January 2007):
 The only way to find out for sure is to ask her, however scary that is. You're not 12 anymore- if she's a true friend she won't be scared off by you telling her you have feelings for her.
CD
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