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writes:Basically, I love the guy I'm seeing, he's funny, charming and just lovely.But I have a problem, when it comes to 'getting to it' he is like really forceful, like when he plays with my breasts he squeezes them really tightly and if I'm honest it hurts me and it's really painful for the rest of the night, which kind of puts me off and I stop getting wet... So I have to keep putting it off I suppose - but of course, I'm started to feel under for filled... what do I do/say to make him stop doing this without hurting his ego? Because like I say, I really care about this guy. Thanks in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2011): You could say "Hey babe, youre squeezing a little too hard. Can you squeeze me like this instead? I would love to feel that from you"... guide him a bit but also tell him he's a little rough. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): Its not going to damage his ego if you ask him to squeeze a little more gently. You have to tell him if hes being a bit too rough, otherwise how is he to know what suits you and what doesnt? Just be honest with him.
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reader, ToHereKnowsWhen  +, writes (19 April 2011):
 Just explain to him, straight out, that he is hurting you and offer him some suggestions on how to `get it right'. Make him feel like he is in control. You shouldn't feel that you can't talk to him about this and if you don't talk to him, you will be more hurt than his ego.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 April 2011):
 What do you say ?... you say : Ouch ! Stop it, that hurts.
Why is hurting your breasts preferable to hurting his ego ?!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 April 2011):
 Tell him that he is too rough. Why would that hurt his ego? The only thing that would hurt is if you string him along and pretend to like it when you don't, that'd make a fool out of him. Be honest. Next time you have sex, tell him he needs to be more gentle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): You can't hurt his ego unless he's an absolute wuss. Just tell him, he won't care. It's not a reflection on his manliness or anything like that, you just like a softer touch.
It sounds like this guy either has no experience or watches too much porn, because hardly any women like to be roughed up and the default way to touch any woman is soft, sensual but firm.
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