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writes:Okay one of my best friends, Cat, recently broke up with her boyfriend. Now he claims that he's in love with me and recently broke the news to Cat. She asked me if I had feelings for him and I said I obviously didnt. Now he wants to ask me out...how do I brake it to him I have no interest in dating him without ruining our friendship?
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reader, GreenTea  +, writes (25 June 2007):
Ahoy,I wouldn't even acknowledge that you could ever like him. That will just give him hope. and as mean as that seems as a guy I can say that its not going to be a fun ending anyway, and its better to get it over quickly. Don't show any signs of being interested. ever. It's just meanFeel free to message me!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (25 June 2007):
 He may be able to be just friends with you, and then he may not. However, that does not depend on you; it's a matter of what he feels. So, there is a chance you will ruin the friendship if you tell him you don't want to date him. But then, how could you date him if you don't love him?As to how to break it to him, wait until he makes an offer, and be very, very direct from the very beginning. You can be polite, yes, but be direct and clear. If you want to be soft on him, tell him you would never date your best friend's ex. Don't drop any hints in the hope he will understand. Sometimes we don't get it, and by the time we realize what is going on the two parties have gone through a lot of pain and problems. Hints are a VERY, VERY BAD idea. Trust me on this one. Speaking clearly is best, for you and for him.Hope this helps.
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reader, becky115115 +, writes (25 June 2007):
becky115115 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanx Mandy ur really sweet, and I totally agree, code of honor even if I did like him I couldnt possibly date him. Thats how Ill brake it to him. Thanx love xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2007): Hi love,
You can say yes he is a nice guy you respect his friendship, but without hurting his feelings you couldnt possibly date any of your best friends ex b/friends, its a best mates code anyway eh hun, thats how all my mates work then you dont end up hurting anyone... Just word it your own way love he should understand.
Hope all goes well for you, TAKE CARE LOTS OF LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXX
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