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*opingformore
writes:So I had this one night stand with this amazing guy, we cuddled afterwards and he held my hand. He spent the night and cuddled me in the morning and did it again. We spent some time talking and had alot in common. We felt connected and he blew off work that morning to spend more time with me. As he was getting ready to leave I did not think he would ask for my number(i believed this was a one night stand) he did ask to my surprise and acted as though he didn't want to leave, he would walk to the door only to turn around and come back to kiss me and told me to call him later. I was excited cuz i did feel that connection. I did call and text. He did text me back couple of times. And said he would talk to me later. Im kind of obsessing over it cause I ended up liking him. Figures. Im just curious as to how I pursue him and maybe start something. It certainly seemed like he was wanting more. Please tell what i should do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2012): This is wqhat you call a one night stand with bedroom manners, but nevertheless, still just a one night stand .
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2012): Please, please do not chase him. If his emotions were genuine he will contact you. A lot of men (players as someone else said) know all the right emotional buttons to push to keep someone interested.
You would be making a very great mistake if you chased this man.
Also, be very careful when (or if) he contacts you. Try going out with him a few times WITHOUT HAVING SEX. If he still keeps in touch with you, then he's interested in you. If he disappears because you aren't having sex with him, then I'm afraid sex is all he was ever after.
This is why one night stands are such a bad idea - you've put yourself at a disadvantage from the beginning by providing sex with no strings attached.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2012): He is probably interested in becoming FWB with you, not in a romantic relationship.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (30 March 2012):
 I would hold back as well, let him "chase" you a little. However, if he calls late after 11PM and wants to "stop" by you will know he just wants a booty call.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2012): Don't let him fool you. "Players" will do this just to keep the "sexual connection" with you. I have had lots experience in this dept. They tell you what you want to hear ect.... It's all a game. You want more with him and start fall in love. It's the thrill of the chase for you. You should let it go and find a nice guy that wants something real. Don't waste your time. Like one of my guys told me once. Getting sex from me was like pure gold ... Nothing else mattered to him. There are real guys out there that want a real relationship.
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (30 March 2012):
If he is interested in you he will pursue you, believe me, because that is what men do when they are interested!
Personally I have never had a one night stand, but I would guess it is rather odd the following day and a little awkward. He could have been just trying to be polite in that he said he would talk later and gave you lots of cuddles etc.
Lets hope I am wrong and he gets in touch!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2012): I agree one hundred percent with cerberus. Let him make the next move. If he is interested he will come to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2012): Give it a bit of time and let him make the next move. You don't want to come across as easy or desperate, so let him make the next move. He did say he would talk to you later; the only way you'll know whether that was a blow off or whether he's really interested is to let him show interest.
Appearances can be deceiving, the proof of the pudding is in eating, a guy who likes you will do what it takes to get you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2012): Could be you had great sex & he had not had any for a good while so he stuck around longer. He thinks your easy so he will be in touch when he is ready for more of the same thats NSA sex not a relationship.
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