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writes:Hello. For the first time in my life ive met somone who has all the basic things I want in a man. We've been close friends for 7years and he's been asking me out all 7years but I always laughed him off cos I never saw us together. Now years have gone by and I'm seeing things about him that I never saw before and I'm loving him everyday. There are a few problems though: I'm a staunch christian, so is he but there's the denominational factor. He's staunch catholic and I'm staunch pentecostal. Now I dont have anything against catholics at all but I'm thinkin long term with this guy and if I do decide to marry him with this particular factor in place, there will be war from my family. Also, he loves to bet (I mean bet) just for the fun of it: either he wins or not, he doesn't care. Then he drinks (moderately though, I'm fully aware he can hold his alcohol). That's all. Now the major thing is, we've been friends so long and really close, if we did get into datin and it doesn't work out for any of the above reasons or something else, its gonna hurt like hell. He's too good a friend and I dont want to spoil my friendship with romance. We've talked about all of this and he's told me he's ready to wait and give me time but I dont want to over do the wait thing for him. Dunno what to do. Please help. Thank ya
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reader, Trinklett  +, writes (31 March 2012):
 A christian is a christian. Denomination shouldn't be a barrier. He's waited on you for 7 years! Whao I'll give him a try before someone else does. Catholics drink a lot don't know why they've never addressed that issue. As for spoiling your relationship, if it doesn't work out, at least you won't go wondering what if. But then lots of people date for shorter periods, get married and things work out. Best of luck
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