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writes:I'm not really sure what to say...well here it is. My long term, long distance b/f and I realised that it wasn't going to work out. There is just too much distance, money and difference in culture involved. But there is also a lot of love and there was over a year of dreaming and hoping to be with each other. I haven't stopped crying since we parted ways and it all feels so wrong. I feel like we haven't really had a chance although i think he may have more acceptance about it. I'm desperate to fight and make it work but i know that its very unlikely and impossible at the moment (as in the next few years). I feel like i need to communicate with him, we're so far apart how am i supposed to know how he is? I could write an e-mail or letter but he may not get either, or fully understand. The most direct thing to do would be to call him but how can i do that? How am i supposed to get on with my life, move on if i still love him and always will?? There just seems like such a connection between us its not fare to that we can't give it a go. Even though it's over I still dream about him as if i'm going to see him again. What should I do? Contact him even though it'll be hopeless? Or just try and live with a broken heart? Please, I don't know what to do.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (23 June 2007):
 If I were you, I would still contact him and, at the same time, I would try to move on. Now this is hell, but it's also the right thing to do. You are not parting ways because you want to, but because life has put you on different paths. That doesn't mean you need to forget entirely about him, or lose any contact.
However, if it were so painful that any of you cannot move on, then stop the contact for some time. It can be a long time, though.
I've been there and I can tell you that, though I have moved on, I never forgot that girl and I honestly wish she wanted to contact me, just to know how she is doing.
Try to keep your spirits up thinking that you did try. Long-distance relationships are always very hard, but you did your best. That is what counts.
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