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writes:I'm 14 and me and my boyfriend are the perfect couple but he not as sexual as I want him to be. How do I loosen him up? And I also want to give him oral. should I? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): I also think he is not ready, because is he was then there woulndt be a problem. Maybe you should just stop thinking about it and when the time comes youll both be ready. Also 14 is a very young age so maybe he is showing you respect
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reader, Podge  +, writes (31 January 2009):
 you cant jsut make someone more sexual. It will just happen when your both ready. It sonds like your not ready if you are thinking about it in this much depth. When your both ready and sure the time will come but before that just enjoy beign with somebody, sex isnt everything especially at 14. i started that sort of thing at the age of 14 and to be honest with you i really regret it. If you like try to make him and hese not intirely happy then it will ruin the mood and just weird things up between you. if i was you id wait for him to make the first move. I cna udnerstand how hard it is though because everyone gets urges. If the time comes then jsut remember to be safe and 100% sure that this is what you both want. Hannah x
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (30 January 2009):
 Sounds like he's just not ready. He's going at a healthier pace than you are, my dear! I'm not saying that having a big libido isn't completely normal, and healthy for a 14 year old, but I am thinking that you need to sloooowww down a bit. The oral, the sex, that can wait. I think you should just enjoy the relationship with your fella. Enjoy making out, doing a little hands on actions, but seriously, once you go all the way there's no going back!
I recommend chilling out for awhile and just really enjoying being in a 'perfect' relationship. You're young, he sounds like a nice guy, you've got a good thing here. Don't muck it up with sex drama!!
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009): to be honest with you i think you're a little young to be getting involved with that kind of stuff and maybe your boyfriend feels that way too. i mean i lost my virginity at 14 with a guy i thought i loved but now i regret it. and for gods sake don't give in to the sex pressure at school. i'll bet all the stories you hear at school about people having sex are made up because those people are insecure about there own sex lives. and i believe that the longer a man waits for the right time, the more genuine the love is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009): Not when you are 14 years old. Sex has ALOT of responciblitly that comes with it. Sex can't be taken lightly with most people, wheither you want it to or not. Your body reacts and sets of chemicals when you have sex with someone that automaticly makes you more attached to them. It can make a break up extremely unbearable. Even if you think you will be with this boy forever, dont count your chickens before they hatch. Giving a guy oral is very nice for him but mostly its not so great for the girl. Read up about it. Sex can be painful the first time as well for a girl and depends if your body is ready or not. YOU cant loosen this boy up. He is being sensible and he is oviously not ready to be making such a big commitment at such a young age. This sort of behavior should be saved until you are 18. Sex is illegal until you are 16 in most countries anyway. If you are putting so much presure on this poor boy he will run away from you and you will loose him altogether. Boys are much less mature than girls, they are usually a few years behind. Think about that.
(Lauren - 17 years old)
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (30 January 2009):
 Try Puberty, I hear it does wonders. lol
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