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writes:hi!! I need help on a difficult situation i find myself in once again. It all started when a female friend of mine hooked me up with her best friend. I was instantly attracted to her the very moment i was introduced to her, she was atracted to me too so her friend says. The problem is that she is still realing from a heartbreak with her longtime first luv, the relationship was flled with pain and betrayal from the other guy who is now married with kids..She cried in my hands the other day and it seams she hasn't really gotten over the other guy. How do I help her get over him, I've fallen in luv with her. How do I show her she's worth more than the bad treatment she's been geting from him..At the same time afraid that she might cheat on me with this guy if we go out. How do i make her mine and win her her heart. She deserves better..that's the long and short of it fols, pliz help
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): I'm sorry to say this but I don't think you have a chance. Relationships with people on the rebound rarely work and that is what is happening.
Unfortunately a lot of people think that the best way to get over someone is to start something with someone else when they're not really ready for it.
It looks to me like that is the situation you find yourself in now, I've been through it many times and it sucks, the first time this happened was especially hard because I didn't know the signs nor had I experienced this before, so it dragged out for ages (because I'm a nice guy and she didn't want to hurt me). I am that kind of guy, the kind that treats the girls I am with like princess' because of this I've been set up with a lot of rebound girls by friends of theirs that think I would be good for them.
Nowadays when I meet a girl that's on the rebound I know it straight away and I'm able to handle to it better.
What I do now is just talk to them, tell them how lovely they are but that I know they're not ready and I don't want to get hurt.
I'd try and get over your feelings for her because I think the chances of it working are far too low and the risk of getting really hurt is very high.
Good Luck!!!!
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