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writes: My Mexican gf of 3+ years recently visited my home country here in Ireland and despite the exquisite trust that her parents had put in here and me, we had sex (once very, very briefly with no protection and then several times with a condom).To those that don't know. Mexicans have a very strict culture regarding relationships and marriage.My gf, upon returning to Mexico then became very paranoid and anxious and believed herself to be pregnant, and in desperate fear, she told her parents about what we had done. Her parents are very disappointed in her but are showing her support.However, I have been living in a sense of fear since she told them and I don't know whether to open dialogue with them or try to communicate with them about it or what to do.It has always been our intention to get married soon, regardless of whether she is actually pregnant or not.She plans to have a pregnancy test on her birthday in the coming week, and until then, we will not know the truth of this.How should I continue with this? What should I do next? Be she pregnant or not, I have to somehow make amends with her parents and family for my part in all this. Sometimes, I just want to run away from the responsibility of it, but that would be cowardly and show very little love all things considered.Please please help!
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (6 September 2006):
 Why don't you send them a hand-written letter informing them of your intentions. Tell them that you love their daughter and she is so very precious to you and that you did not mean for this to happen. Tell her you are standing by her, and hope to marry her no matter what happens, and whether she is pregnant or not. End the letter by thanking them for taking the time to read your letter, and say that you will respect them and their daughter always. Good luck, and best wishes for the future.
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reader, Charmedone  +, writes (6 September 2006):
 i think you have just answered the question yourself hun you need to talk to her family about this explain that you are very much in love and that it was just the once that you never used protection and see what they say if they truly believ that you love their daughter they will be cool about it they may have a little rant an rave at you about it but once they see you have had the deceny to talk to them about it they will see how much you care and love their daughter so next time you visit your girlfriend all of you sit down and talk about the problem in hand and how you can work around and if indeed she is pregnant make it clear to her parents and most importantly her that you will stick with her no matter what happens don't run away from this as it will only make it ten times worse and that won't be fair on your girlfrien be a man and solve this problem as a couple hope this has helped xx
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