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anonymous
writes:How do I know I have a crush on my paternal aunt?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2020): Sometimes people have traits or qualities that we are attracted to; but not necessarily a full-on infatuation with someone not even remotely interested...or related. I will assume you're physically-attracted; which adds a controversial-element to the situation. It won't be popular, or go-over well if declared over Thanksgiving dinner.
Growing-up as a kid, my mother's sisters were really pretty ladies. They always made me blush, and I loved getting their attention. A little indicator-light in the back of my mind always reminded me they're blood-relatives. My mother's sisters! I switched over to family-mode, and showed them the appropriate respect. I kept off-color thoughts to myself. As should you!
Crushes are okay. You don't have to act on impulse or step out-of-line. You suppress it until it passes.
We are given a moral-compass, and the ability to maintain composure, practice self-control, and regulate our impulses. Sometimes we have to consider the following:
(1) The feelings are not mutual.
(2) It crosses moral or legal boundaries.
(3) If it's tied to a fetish.
(4) How outraged she or others would be if you confessed it openly.
Keep it as your little secret. That makes it harmless. Use self-control, and that keeps it respectful.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (9 November 2020):
 Crushes are normally short lived and fade away naturally over time.
I would advise keeping this to yourself within the walls of your own mind.
You are over 40 years old, i really don't think you need anyone to tell you how you would know if its a crush or not.
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (9 November 2020):
 You are over 40 years old. Your Fathers sister is probably over 60 years old.
If you think about her all of the time you probably have a crush (infatuation) on her. It will likely fade quickly (a month or less). That's pretty much the definition of crush.
The unspoken question is what should you do about it. The answer is Nothing. It is most likely that nothing good will come of it. Most crushes are unrequited (she doesn't crush you back). And the whole thing will be awkward anyway, and you will be over it quickly anyway.
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