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writes:I am 14 and in 10th grade. I am a year younger than most of my classmates already because I was home schooled through 8th grade, so this is only my second year of public school, and I wasn't allowed to date last year, and now I can date but I can't make out, but I still haven't actually been on a date.I am not very pretty. I am really tall and skinny, and I have practically no breasts, and my hair is just straight brown and I am not allowed to do anything to color it or curl it, or to wear any make-up at all, not even nail polish, and I am not even allowed to let my nails grow.I still get spankings because my dad is very strict. I know that some other girls my age do still get spankings, but mine are frequent and very, very hard and not just for major things but for any disobedience at all. I try to keep that I get spankings a secret at school because it would be completely embarrassing, but that pretty much means I can't ever invite people over, so I don't have a lot of girl friends.Now I have a super crush on a boy in 11th grade. He is on the basketball team and is taller than me. I am on the girls JV team and we usually practice after one of the varsity teams finishes with the courts so I see him and if I am early I will watch him. Last week after he had finished up in the locker room he came out and watched us for a while and I could tell he was specifically watching me, and then he waved to me before he left, and today he asked me in the hall after first period if I wanted to go to a movie sometime and I told him I would.I am afraid that he will think I am too young because I have never dated before, and because I am not allowed to make out, and because I still get spankings, and because my breasts are so tiny, and because I don't know anything at all about being a girlfriend.How do I keep him interested in me?Callie H.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2012): Hi, Callie,
I tried to answer this before but I think there was something wrong with my browser, and it never posted.
I'm Ben. I'm a college guy. I'm still dating my high school sweetheart who is two years younger than me. We are both in college now, different schools, but just a couple of hours apart.
You say you aren't pretty, but everything you mention sounds really cute to me. You don't say much about this boy, but I bet he knows what you look like. He knows you are tall and have small breasts, and he knows what your hair is like and that you don't wear make-up. I bet all of these things are things he likes.
He probably knows something about you, too, enough to find you between classes even though you aren't in his grade. I doubt last week was the first time he ever thought about you. He knows that you like basketball, too, so you two can always just shoot hoops if you don't know what else to do. He knows you are young. He probably gets that you are pretty innocent. Maybe he is, too.
Even the spanking thing I wouldn't worry too much about him finding out about if you start dating. I get that you don't want the whole school to know that you still receive frequent spankings at 14, but if a boy likes a girl who still gets spanked a lot at home it usually just makes him feel super protective of her.
Just be yourself. Don't try to be something for him that you think he wants, trust him as much as you feel safe doing, and take things slow.
Being a girlfriend isn't any different than just being a girl, only you do it with a boy along. We like that. It keeps us interested.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2012): You may have heard the saying, the spider is more scared than you. There is nothing more terrifying for a boy in high school than asking out a girl.
It sounds like you want to talk to someone about your problems at home. That's what boyfriends are for.
As far as being interested, he is 16-18 year old boy, he's interested!
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