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writes: How to handle a workaholic husband? I really dont want to end this 20 year long marriage,but my husband is pushing it to my limits.. He is working on the computer, so his work hours are 9-10 everyday or more also on the weekends. He is totally uninterested in sex,and his children and other obligations.The children are out of control,with no father around..So I cant say ,I have no pain.. He went to a psychiatrist because of his sexual flatness,they told him he needs balance in his life,and cut back on work. But he is always finding an excuse.. Well,he behaves like a drug-addict ,but how can you prove this to a guy, who brings in the cash. I know ,there are many woman, who are thinking. What is her problem????? I wish my husband would work instead of chasing woman, drinking,and going to the strip club. Yes ,he is dream husband,and that is the paradox, that I still cant make it here,if he cant change.But if I would know what to do, i would to save this ,marriage. Maybe he hates me? I also feel, if I let him get away with this, he feels guilt, because he knows its wrong..Like there is no escape ... I dont know. Please advice! thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): Hello, caring guy! Thanks. I was just wondering if your girlfriend had any kids with this man? As it is slowing down that process very much. It does feel like hell, but still ,it is so strange and hard to understand. If any more ideas,please tell,thanks..
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 April 2010):
I'm really sorry about this, and it's a shame my girlfriend isn't here to talk to you, because she had this problem with her ex husband. And that in many ways tells you how your own marriage will end.
This is a man who is totally into himself and his little world. There is no way of changing that. The decision that my girlfriend took was to give him one year in which to change. He didn't, so she left. I think that's the point you've reached in your marriage. You can't stay married to someone who isn't there for you. You just can't. I think you need to be brave and give him an ultimatum. If he won't change, then you know where you stand.
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