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writes:I told my Best Guy friend last night That I've had feelings for him. Even though I know he didnt feel the same. He played me along the past year because he wanted me to be his best friend with benefits.. we stopped doing that.. but he was the first boy, so it made my emotions all confused:(He said he loves me, but I am not his type, he wants a perfect ten. That I will find someone that can give me what I deserve and someone who will make me happy. Now I know we never will be together, It just breaks my heart. I've never had this feeling before. How do I get over this? I cant just stop hanging out with him! He's my best friend! we are going to be roomates and go to college next year together! we also work together! please someone help me:( Im sad and heartbroken
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reader, Ms Skull +, writes (11 December 2009):
You need to get another life and de-attach yourself from him.
Don't be his roommate. Eventually get another job. Stop talking to him. These are harsh methods but that is the only way for you to avoid your suffering. Tell him you can't be his friend anymore. Maybe in a couple of years that could change but now you must take care of yourself.
The same thing happened to me and I was torn for months because my girl friend never even said good bye to me. I am broken hearted even now as I write you because she could have sat me down but instead just left my life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice.Today we worked together.And we didnt talk about it at all.And it was even the least bit awkward.We laughed and made our inside jokes as usual.He likes to talk about other girls in front of me,it bothers me,and i try not to show it because I am his best friend,but I think he likes to make me jealous and I dont know why.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008): ummm him saying "the perfect ten" must have made u feel crap? since u obviously sound like the perfect girl!!i would tell him this upset you, but make it clear other guys are after you now..don't let him get you down- he doesn't deserve you deep down..maybe he knows this!
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reader, hopelessly_lost +, writes (16 November 2008):
 keep being his friend, the emotions you are feeling will fade away when you meet someone else, just get back on the playing feild. i once dated my best friend, i think it lasted a whole 8 hours lol, i broke up with him and 15 min later went to his house and hung out. ofcourse your situation is different than mine was but i promise you the emotions will fade.
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reader, Everoth +, writes (16 November 2008):
 he is obviously not your friend if he is going to make you feel like this, you have other friends, hang with them and leave him be until he gets the picture and maybe he'll come to appreciate the sort of friend he had until his own selfishness caused you to leave
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